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🏳️🌈The "ME" Project🏳️🌈
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18 contributions to 🏳️🌈The "ME" Project🏳️🌈
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Your Win This Week? ☺️
What’s your win from this week? What made you feel grateful, or what’s a funny story that made you laugh out loud?
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@Michael Nairn i love everything about this for you! I giggled at the cattiness. I'm much the same way 😂
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Aside from sharing my story, I wrote 9 pages of a story/fanfic I started. I used to write all the time and lost my passion for it for the last 7ish years, so that's an amazing turnaround for me.
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Trauma Dump... maybe tmi...TLDR
Been sitting on this post for a few hours. During yesterday's call about loneliness, I was pretty quiet, partially because I was late, but I also didn't really know how to articulate what I've been dealing with without oversharing and feeling like I'm a weirdo. But I think the next part of my healing is sharing everything without censoring myself or apologizing for it. I don't want to do it, but I think that's the only thing i haven't done yet. I haven't even told my best friends everything because of an irrational fear that they'll leave. Trigger warning: sexual and psychological abuse. Self-harm/substance use. Suicide mention Pretty standard, parents divorced and I blamed myself after hearing my parents fight over how they were raising me. Dad is anger driven and authoritative and demanded respect and submission (i attribute part of that to his job as a cop). Mom was mostly rational and explained things. He moved out into an apartment, kind of on a sublevel. My brother and I made a friend in the complex and we hung out through the summer. During that summer, he introduced me to sex and showed me how to suck and fuck. That was when I knew I was gay. I vividly remember that most of the times happened outside in the landscaping in front of/next to my dad's window and next to a busy road, but the one that has been plaguing me is when the friend was at my dad's apartment and dared me to give him a secret bj in the living room behind one of these giant speakers while my dad was on the other side folding laundry. Did it and never got caught. This was like a 4-6 week ordeal. Fast forward a few years, my friends started getting curious and we'd experiment with each other. Dad caught my best friend and I playing Truth or Dare; got way out of hand. He freaked out so bad I don't even remember half of what he yelled, but I remember thinking "this isn't the first time he's reacted like this to something small so I'll just shut up and nod and get it over with." Then, my brother started asking me about sex when I was about 10-12ish and I kept telling him he needed to talk to mom or dad about it. We were home alone and he kept pushing and pushing, and I eventually caved, explained oral sex and showed how it works. It immediately got weird and we both felt really awkward and gross about it, so we agreed to never say anything because we both knew it was weird and wrong and didn't want to do it ever again.
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@Greg Henriques you are 100% correct. A truth I didn't want to believe but everyone must 🙂
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I'd be available Sunday evening around 7pm (EDT)
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I'll be there! Maybe a little late like last time again. My class on Mondays goes until 5/4 so this won't be a forever thing 🙂
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Monogamy vs Ethical non Monogamy
What do you believe in? I would like to hear your theory and why it works out for you ☺️
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I believe both work. It just depends on the people involved. Some positives I got from non-monogamy were: 1. If I (or partner) needed to unload after a hard day or something and one partner was not available, the other(s) can step in if available. And when it's reciprocated, I found it to be validating. 2. With the high level of communication needed to make non-monogamy successful, intimacy becomes a natural byproduct and elevates the connection between everyone involved. 3. The expectation I grew up with about one-on-one dates motivated me to be more original, so I really enjoyed coming up with dates that we'd all enjoy. Now, I do think I am made for monogamy (at least right now). I learned a lot about myself and my needs going through my poly relationship, and finding those things made the pain worth it even though sometimes I'll never admit it. I do still have some things I need to work on, but it was like ripping off a band-aid finding out all these insecurities I have so I knew what my baseline for my expectations and toxic traits are. I have friends who are married and are dating each other and they're all very open and communicative with each other. It's actually made their marriages stronger and happier. I can't quite remember what one of them said, but to paraphrase they said they feel they're capable of loving more than one person and find the expectation to only have romantic love with one person to be too limiting and that it made them less happy. All of them are in agreement on it, so I have seen it work. Having learned all that, I enjoy sharing my discoveries when the situation is appropriate. I think anything learned in a monogamous relationship can be found in a non-monogamous relationship, it's just a different environment to navigate. Funny enough, I think I learned more from my experience than anything I've read or observed even though mine ended up being a dumpster fire 😂
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Relationship …
Can any of you tell me from your own experience when a relationship falls apart ?
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I was in a poly relationship and it's the only one I have any reference for, but mine fell apart when the communication changed. When I asked them if I had done something to make this shift, one of them denied it outright saying it was all in my head and the other tried to help figure it out because he noticed the shift too. Neither of them were communicating directly though. It was all "well i think x but person 1 said you disagree so I didn't bother bringing it up to fight about it". Ultimately, I backed out because I felt like it was my fault their 7 year relationship became rocky, and when I tried telling them my reasoning and how I was feeling that led me to this I was given an ultimatum that if I broke up with them there's no going back. I tried finding something to convince myself to stay, but they wouldn't be direct with me like i asked them to be. So I left. I learned that if someone isn't willing to communicate with you and work through each other's struggles, it will not last. I don't have a lot of definitive black and white stances on things, but this is at the top of my list.
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@Marek Bartosz yeah I didn't realize how much that was a heavy trigger for me until a few years after that. I'm sorry it feels familiar 😅🫂
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@jacyn-benzinger-5619
Easy going, open-minded, hopeless romantic, creative, adventurous
Active 17h ago
Joined Mar 23, 2026
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