Hi, I’m really grateful I have somewhere to express my feelings with other people in the same situation. I’ve just found out this morning my wife is still in contact with another man she said was just friends, late night calls and god know what else, I want to approach her about it but really don’t want to push her further away, it’s really tricky as I feel like a mug.

After really thinking me and jodi would get back together things have definitely took a downward turn! Its started by Wednesday night work going mad at me telling me I need to get the job done quicker They were bang out of order to me I always try my best! The next day I was at jodis and was supposed to stay there until I left for work I said something which upset her and she told me to leave! I went but forget my phone and wallet so as I went back in she was walking up the stairs in her underwear Sorry she said I didnt know you would be coming back in and because I was angry I said its ok you always do it anyway Meaning the times she has been in the kitchen and told me to advert my eyes! I have quit porn and webcams so even her saying that has a effect on me so I had do my best to explan this before but as I snapped she said from now on you are here for jack and him only i don't want and relationship with you at all! I walked out the door phoned in sick for my shift and went on a walk with the intention of ending my life! She messaged asking if I was safe and when I didn't confirme I was or not she called the police and they was looking for me! The end result i can't now pick up or take my son to school or even see him for the time being until safe guarding checks have taken place But I did go to his show at school yesterday of him playing drums I gave him a cuddle at the end and told him how proud I was and then as I left the school I walked out crying and there was my wife standing right by the door I didn't make eye contact with her but I see her face drop seeing me so upset I carried on walking really hopeing she might try to comfort me or send someone else to but I know she did message my sister and best friend to say I was in a bad way! Just had my 1st bit of food since Wednesday and took a mental health medication for the 1st time ever in my life Feel so alone and so lost but I have now fully accepted there is no future for me and jodi

So on Fri 19 June my partner calls time on our relationship, and today just a few.weeks later I have estate agent coming to take photos of house as she pushes for it to go on sale ASAP so she can move on. I feel powerless to stop this process and if I had said nonshe would likely have left for her parents. This is all so quick....

So - watched video 1 and pleased to say as of Mon this week have been avoiding the attraction killers. Video 2 - i now understand that my partner lost faith that things were going to change, at least to the degree she needed, to show her a different future awaited rather than more of the same.......she unloaded on me when drunk last April, I think I made progress on some points but maybe not others and she noticed patterns of repeated behaviours she didnt like. My partner stated whilst out on a date night in Feb/March after a few drinks (again drunk mouths betray sober hearts) that she didnt feel we were connected (exact phrase Mark's video uses) and I still deluded myself that we were ok but subconsciously felt increasingly uneasy. Now I get it.

Hi all, For those that couldn't make the call tonight, I did a very brief overview of the weekly training videos that are available in the classroom. If particularly if you're new here and you haven't dived into those yet, this would be a great place to start. It ties them together and talks a bit about how each links to the next and why each of the videos cover some really important themes that I see men needing to navigate as they work to rebuild their marriage from the point of separation. I will upload to the classroom later but for now here's the recording.