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Alone and unsupervised
Today I went to Lowe’s and spent over $200 on plants and flowers for the backyard. The whole way there I was remembering how my wife, Kim, always said that I shouldn’t be allowed to go to any home improvement store unsupervised. On the way home, after the purchase I kept saying it was her fault I spent so much because she left me alone and unsupervised. I worked in the yard all day. Sure beats sobbing in the fetal position that I have been doing the rest of this week.
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Enormous
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Unpredictable
8d •
Grief
Has anyone else ever been caught in a moment that nobody but the person who’s no longer around could understand and get you through?
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I do this too. I talk with and for my wife. Or if I do something I know she would complain about, I say “I know honey”.
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@Tracy L we had 27 years together. There is nothing I didn’t know.
9d •
Say their name
I’m trying to determine how upset or disappointed I should be…. Last weekend was my grandson’s 8th birthday. It was a time of celebration, I get that. But I saw my brother and sister in law for the first time since a couple of weeks after my wife passed in Jan. They didn’t ask how I was or say her name. I know that it is different with brothers and he has never been full of emotions, but crickets? It makes me sad.
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@Toni Filipone thank Toni. As I said he has always had trouble with sharing his emotions. But the only person that asked about me and how I was doing was my son-in-law’s brother. I try to talk to my daughter, but she is trying to be strong for me. One of my biggest fears is that my grandkids aren’t going to remember her. I was with her every day. I know that my grief is more intense but it’s only been 10 weeks. I feel like I am the only one grieving.
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Three things you can do in grief when you feel lonely at night…
1. Let yourself feel it without trying to fix it.Nighttime is when everything gets quiet, and all the feelings you pushed away during the day show up. You don’t always need to solve it. Sometimes you just need to sit there and admit… this hurts, I miss them, and tonight feels heavy. 2. Put something on in the background.Silence can make grief louder. A TV show, music, a podcast, even noise in another room can help your nervous system settle. It doesn’t mean you’re avoiding your grief. It just means you’re giving your mind a break. 3. Reach for connection, even if it’s small.Text someone. Go into an online group. Read something that reminds you you’re not the only person in the world feeling this way. Loneliness in grief isn’t just about missing them… it’s about feeling like no one understands. Connection helps with that. Nights can feel like the hardest part of grief. Not because you’re weak… but because there’s nothing left to distract you from what your heart knows is missing.
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@Henri - Henriette Korevaar that is so hard. My wife had a lot of physical issues, but I was not her caregiver per se.
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@Henri - Henriette Korevaar thanks Henri. It was good to see you too. I am really sorry for what you are going through. 41years wow.
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@eva-hardesty-1928
I lost my wife of 27 years on Jan 10, 2026 after an unexpected brief illness.
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Joined Mar 12, 2026
North Carolina