I hope you find some peace in his words as well. Enjoy. “What’s so is always just what’s so. What’s so doesn’t care what you think, feel, intend or wish; it will not bend. You can be freaked out or driven over what’s so, and it won’t change what’s so. If you’re late for an appointment, getting freaked out about it won’t have you arrive any earlier. If you’re having a bad day, being freaked out won’t change what’s so. That which you seek will not bring you satisfaction – aligning with what’s so will. When you’re upset, you’re never upset over what’s so. What’s so is just what’s so, and you’re upset. If your house burns down and you get upset, does it bring your house back? What’s so doesn’t care if you’re upset; it’s up to you how you handle what’s so. There is no confusion in what’s so. When you don’t know you just don’t know – there is no confusion there. There’s nothing right or wrong about what’s so. What’s so is always open to different interpretations. There’s always just what’s so, and then you have an interpretation. What scares you isn’t what’s so, it’s your interpretation. The interpretation is never true; what’s so is real, the interpretation is not. Who you’re being is just who you’re being, and what’s so doesn’t care if you’re happy with it or not, so why should you? When you’re not being with what’s so, that’s also just what’s so. Why should you concern yourself? Other people should always be the way they’re being; if you think they shouldn’t, that’s your interpretation. Bring yourself back to what’s so about them. Until you can be with what’s so, you can’t be with anything or anyone. You may have control over other people’s what’s so, but none over their interpretation – give it up. If you take action or not, it’s still just what’s so. If it works out well or not, it’s still just what’s so. You can never make a right or wrong decision, or take a right or wrong action. Whatever you do will always bring you more of what’s so, and then you have an interpretation about it. Whatever you don’t have, so what? Whatever you’ve done or thought in the past, again so what? Whatever happens in the future is not to be feared. It’s just going to be more of what’s so. The challenge is to spend as much time in what’s so as you can. The chatter in your head is more interpretation, and it has nothing to do with what’s so. There’s nothing wrong with the chatter, it’s just you listening to a fantasy.

Yesterday each of you posted your "I can't", and what that looks like for you. This is the area of your life you've confessed that you are powerless to. Today, I would like for you to begin your weekly assignment with a follow up to that post by leaving a comment under this post answering the following things....remember, these are asking for deeper insight around what you posted in your comment yesterday. This is not due until Tuesday the 7th at 5pm CST. An email has been sent to confirm this as your 1st check-in of week 2. All that is due on the 1st check-in of next week is this assignment. The 2nd check-in later in the week will focus on sharing through voice notes and I'll offer a bit of guidance on what we will exchange around. Read this carefully and pay attention to what's being asked. This is where we start to clean up our language. Myself included! Let's begin.... Naming your "can't": • What is the pattern? • What is the actual behavior? • What do you keep doing? • What can’t you seem to stop doing? • What do you keep returning to even though it costs you? Say it straight. Example: NOT: “I struggle with self-worth around relationships.” More like: “When I feel rejected, I obsess, spiral, check my phone, stalk emotionally, and lose my peace.” Give one real, recent example of this pattern from your actual life. Answer the following: • What happened? • Who was involved? • What did you do? • What did you say? • What did you avoid? • What was the situation? Keep it concrete. One situation. One example. One doorway into the truth. Separate the Layers. A. What happened? State the facts only. B. What did you feel? Use actual feelings words:sad, ashamed, angry, scared, lonely, numb, overwhelmed, hurt, jealous, guilty, empty, etc. What story did you tell? What did you make it mean about: • yourself? • the other person? D. What did you actually do? Name the behavior. Did you: • withdraw • shut down • lash out • punish • over-explain • lie • hide • numb out • scroll

something i feel powerless over, im my experience when i lie down too rest and sleep allot of the time, my inner world is full of sensations and "movement" and energy , it feels as if im processing and digesting information , and it all happens outside of conscious control, il hear the words of others that im in relation with rise within my consciousness, and its almost like theres an internal dialog going on where everything is processing and at times mirroring within, ive also felt powerless over the mental chatter in my mind and the way i can get caught up in my own loops and spirals, and the way i seem too always be in a constant state of process, i feel powerless over a part of my experience where i seem too be constantly changing and swapping between different versions of my self , one which il call my birth self and another which seems to maybe be connected to something more universal , it brings out different parts of my identity and changes the experience of how i feel in my body and the world, theres changes of swapping between these different parts of mysef very often and it leaves me feeling a bit out of control and uncertain

My I can't is the powerlessness I feel in regards to my body and my health. But also in general in regards to (my) life. I am noticing the intense control I am trying to exert in order to avoid feeling and also be seen as out of control/powerless and how it is present in all interactions and even the moments I am alone with myself...trying to change, trying to, trying to meditate or do something to get to a state where I feel I can face life or other people in a way where I can be seen as vital, attractive, pretty, kind, open, balanced...and then maybe believe that myself. Also that control is connected to constant judgment of a moment, of others and myself. And being aware of it arising still doesn't necessarily free me from the pattern. It places a wall between me and others and there's few moments where I feel it disappear. Trying to perfect the moment separates me from what's really happening and leads to dissatisfaction because it's never perfect.

For me it is control! Observing how I control every moment of my day. From the way I make my coffee feed my animals . The way I say if you want something done do it yourself because no one can please me. Although my husband helps me around the house I find myself getting irritated. I’ve created all these rules around how things are to be done in my life and if it doesn’t fit in my box I feel anger and irritation inside my body. Not to get caught up on stories but this question brings me back to childhood. My sister and o shared a room but I was neat and she was messy. I always cleaned our bedroom because even as a child no one could do it better than me and noon could please me. This also brings in the perfectionism as well. Which are tied together. Obsession with my looks how I dress my presentation.