Here’s a helpful guide for when you’re having hard conversations.

I watch the Adventure of Feldspar today and My Adventure mark is to Mountain climb. Does and else would like to share what there adventure Marks are ?

Thought this was really good! === “I am so far from where I want to be in life…” When I was 18 my life was going wrong in pretty much every area you can imagine. -Doing drugs and drinking -Arrested 6 times -85 pounds overweight -Flunking out of school -No real friends I continued to fail until I hit my first major ‘rock bottom’ moment… It was the sixth time I got arrested. The police took me home to my dad’s house. I remember sitting in the living room and my dad saying to me, “I don’t care if you want to keep doing this, but I have to tell you, I do think you’re going to kill yourself. I think you’re going to drink and do drugs so much that you’re going to die.” The toughest part in hearing that was that I knew he was right. I realized that I had been a victim of my life and let all these feelings and emotions dictate how I act. That night I made a commitment to change my life. -No more parties -No more social media -No more drinking or drugs -No more unhealthy food or being lazy -No more hanging out with the same people I dedicated myself to becoming the person I always wanted to be, which started with changing my mind. Here are the 3 tools I used to become the person I always wanted to be: 1) 𝐍𝐞𝐠𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐕𝐢𝐬𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐳𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 I started asking myself productive questions… “If I continue to do this and I do not change, what happens 5 years from now?” 2) 𝐈𝐧𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐌𝐲 𝐅𝐫𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐓𝐨𝐥𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 Why did I eat? → Because I didn’t want to tolerate feeling hungry Why did I drink? → Because I didn’t want to tolerate feeling anxious Why did I flunk school? → Because I didn’t want to tolerate feeling like I wasn’t good at something High achievers are able to tolerate large amounts of unwanted thoughts & feelings. Here’s the crazy part about feelings...the more you step into them, the more they dissipate. Increase your frustration tolerance with the following: – Accept the frustration – Label the frustration – Create realistic mental cues around the frustration “I may feel anxious, hungry, and alone, but I can become the person I want to be if I work hard enough.”

Hello, I live in western PA. I work on a wildland firefighting crew. I travel around the country for most of the year. I joined this group to improve all my relationship skills! I get to really test my skills in my job!