With a few hours left in 2025, we are unbelievably close to our goal for the year. It is always amazing to me how even a quietly shared goal can become a reality. I'm not really a woo woo person, but what is it about randomly choosing Dec 31 as the date to reach 1000 that made it suddenly possible? If I had chosen Dec 1, would it have happened then, or would it just have been an unmet goal? I wonder... As we move into 2026 and start thinking about goals for January, Q1, and the next calendar year, I'd love to hear how you are approaching your goals for your business and how you choose to set "realistic" goals. I once had a coach tell me that she only makes "input" goals and not "output" goals as inputs are the only things she controls. I usually make both types of goals, but I loved the idea for focusing on what is in my control. If it feels aligned and you are moved to do so, I'd love to have your help in ringing in 2026 with our fellow 999 members. And if you haven't seen the pinned post about the challenge for the next few weeks which includes any referrals made today, check out the top of the page! Wishing you all the best in the new year, and I can't wait to play an active and supportive role in helping you all reach your Skool goals in 2026. 😊

“You can’t blame your trauma for everything.” Has anyone else heard this? It’s a sentence many of us are told — sometimes by others, sometimes by an inner voice that’s learned to repeat it. And while it can sound reasonable on the surface, it often lands as: • shame • minimisation • dismissal of lived experience • pressure to “get over it” Understanding trauma isn’t about blaming it for everything. It’s about recognising how past experiences shape nervous system responses, beliefs, and patterns — often outside conscious choice. When trauma is ignored or invalidated, people don’t suddenly become empowered. They usually become quieter. Harder on themselves. More confused. Healing doesn’t come from denial. It comes from context, compassion, and choice. I’m curious: 💬 Have you ever been told “you can’t blame your trauma for everything”? How did it land for you? If you would like to be part of a community that gets it. You can join for free here: Virtual Trauma Therapy With love, Chris

Our beautiful trauma healing community is growing from strength to strength with 188 members since our launch in August. During our 12 days of Christmas Trauma Healing Challenge - Premium membership is reduced to $5/£3.70 per month. That is 50% less that the usual price!!!! You will have full access to our 'Understanding Your Nervous System' course starting 12th Jan, plus many other benefits. Please see the screenshot attached for the full list of what's included. No pressure - but for those interested - it will never be cheaper than this. Remember to sign up before the final day 5th Jan here: Virtual Trauma Therapy With love, Chris ❤️

A gentle, soul-friendly way to move through the holiday season together. Starting 25th December, we’ll begin a daily grounding, reflection, and healing challenge designed especially for trauma survivors who may find this time of year overwhelming, lonely, or emotionally complex. Each day offers one small, compassionate step — nothing intense, nothing exposing — just simple prompts that help you reconnect with your body, your boundaries, your truth, and your glimmers. Across the 12 days, we’ll explore themes like: ✨ noticing your body ✨ grounding ✨ safety ✨ rest ✨ boundaries ✨ self-compassion ✨ glimmers ✨ emotional validation ✨ and gentle connection This challenge is zero-pressure: you can engage daily, occasionally, or silently from the background — all ways of participating are welcome here. If Christmas is a complicated time for you, you won’t be doing it alone. We’ll move through it together, one day at a time, in a way that honours your nervous system and your pace. There will be a free session with me up for grabs for those who engage the most! Join us in our wonderfully supportive community for free here: https://www.skool.com/virtual-trauma-therapy-1376/about Let’s end the year with softness, connection, and tiny moments of healing. 🎁✨

For many of us with trauma histories, happiness isn’t simple. Moments of joy can be quickly followed by guilt, fear, or a strange sense of unease — as if feeling good is somehow unsafe or undeserved. This often isn’t about self-sabotage. It’s about what our nervous systems learned. If you grew up in environments where: good moments were short-lived happiness was followed by punishment, loss, or withdrawal staying alert mattered more than feeling relaxed your joy was minimised, envied, or taken away …then happiness can register as a threat, not a reward. Some common trauma responses: Feeling guilty for being happy when others are suffering Waiting for “something bad” to happen after a good moment Dimming your joy so you don’t stand out Feeling disloyal to past pain, lost loved ones, or former versions of yourself None of this means we’re ungrateful or broken. It means our systems learned that safety mattered more than pleasure. Healing doesn’t mean forcing ourselves to be happy. It means slowly teaching our body that joy doesn’t equal danger. Sometimes the work is simply this: noticing a good moment letting it stay for a few seconds longer reminding ourselves we don’t have to earn joy or justify it We are allowed to feel happy and honour our pain. Both can exist at the same time. 💬 If this resonates, we would love to welcome you into our very supportive community: Virtual Trauma Therapy With love, Chris ❤️