I found out fairly recently that I have ADHD. I'm 53. What's come alongside that discovery is something I wasn't expecting: grief. Real grief. Grief for who I could have been if I'd known sooner. Grief for what I could have accomplished. Grief for where my life could be right now. Here I am at 53, financially strapped, without much I can point to and say "I built that." I can't stop thinking about the imaginary version of me who got the information at 20, or 30, or even 40, and what she might have done with it. The work I'm doing from this program has helped me so much, but it's also part of why the grief is hitting so hard right now. For the first time I can actually see what's possible for me, and the gap between that and where I am now feels enormous. I think this grief would have surfaced either way eventually. The program just made it more acute right now. I wanted to ask: has anyone else here gone through this? The mourning of a life you might have had if you'd known sooner? How did you handle it? What helped? I’m finding it hard to get past this.

I’m improving the onboarding for ADHD Harmony and I’d love your input. What has been the most valuable thing you’ve gotten from this community/our programs so far? I want to make sure new members get as much value as possible right from the start, so your answer will help me shape the onboarding around what actually works. Would love to see your input in the comments.

What's a small win you had this week, or anytime during the challenge or even the snapshot that someone without ADHD might not understand was actually a big deal?

I had very specific things in mind I was hoping to accomplish when I joined the 6 week program for the first time through. Jim offered practical solutions and protocols and systems to put in place that went above and beyond my greatest expectations. Now, having gone through the 6-week program twice, I am amazed everyday at the continuous breakthroughs I continue to have, specifically revolving around my creativity and overcoming writer's block and working through things that were blocking my creative energy because my ADHD had gotten so out of hand and I didn't have systems in place to act as a scaffolding to help support all the other areas of my life. As I was writing a screenplay this morning, I was overcome with gratitude and a deep sense of relief about the fact that I'm able to harness my creative energy again in ways that I hadn't done for at least a year before joining the program, and that I haven't done well for several years before that. Thank you again, @Jim Ebbelaar . You probably don't realize it but you've been a huge champion for my dreams in that way and I can't thank you enough. 🙏🏼🫶🏼

As promised, here are a few reads that stayed with me over the years. Not because they were “nice books”. But because each one left a fingerprint on how I think, feel, and move through life. Psycho-Cybernetics (Maxwell Maltz) This one taught me that self image runs everything. If you keep “seeing yourself” as the person who quits, procrastinates, or disappoints, you will keep living that loop. Change the inner picture, and behavior starts to follow. The Untethered Soul (Michael A. Singer) Big reminder: you are not the voice in your head. You are the one who hears it. When I really started practicing that, the mental noise lost a lot of power. The Power of Now (Eckhart Tolle) I read this while traveling in Thailand and I applied it immediately. It was honestly bizarre how quickly you can feel the difference when you stop living inside “later” or “what if” and return to the present. It was one of the first times I experienced peace as something practical, not philosophical. The Expectation Effect (David Robson) This gave me a grounded, research-backed way to understand something we all feel: what you expect shapes what you experience. He uses practical examples and data around placebo and nocebo effects, where positive expectations can improve outcomes and negative expectations can worsen them. Mastery (Robert Greene) This book helped me connect the dots back to childhood. Greene argues your “Life’s Task” often leaves clues early on, in what you were naturally drawn to before the world told you what was “useful.” What hit me most is how many masters went through a real shift after years of apprenticeship. A phase where they stopped copying and started experimenting, and something more intuitive and original switched on. He uses biographies of people like Darwin and Einstein to show that pattern. Reality Transurfing (Vadim Zeland) This one goes deeper for me than “just think positive.” The idea that stuck is reducing “importance.” The more you overcharge a goal with pressure, identity, or desperation, the more you create inner tension and weird resistance. Another concept is “pendulums,” basically dramas or group energies that try to hook your attention. When you stop feeding them with emotional charge, you get your energy back and you move cleaner.