In almost every class I teach, whether it’s women in a workplace, seniors in a community centre, young adults, or corporate teams preparing for worst-case scenarios, someone inevitably asks: “What do I actually DO if someone attacks me?” It’s a fair question. It’s also the wrong starting point. Real self-defence doesn’t begin with strikes, kicks, or techniques. It begins long before an attacker is within arm’s reach. And the truth most people don’t hear enough is this: Physical self-defence is a last resort. Not the plan. Not the primary solution. Not the smartest first line of defence. In fact, for many people, especially women, seniors, those with injuries, disabilities, or reduced strength, relying on a physical confrontation is not only unrealistic, it can be extremely dangerous. Movies, social media clips and even most martial arts schools create a distorted perception of self-defence. We see small people defeating large attackers. We see perfect blocks, clean strikes, and clear victories. What we don’t see is: - The chaos - The adrenaline - The tunnel vision - The freezing - The legal aftermath - The injuries from a single punch or fall In the real world, physical violence is messy and unpredictable. A single push can result in a head hitting concrete. A “simple punch” can be fatal. A knife appears when you didn’t see it. A second attacker appears when you were focused on the first. For women and seniors in particular, size and strength discrepancies make a physical exchange even more dangerous. The missing link in most self-defence training is not more techniques… It’s more awareness. Awareness prevents more attacks than strength ever will. By the time a situation has turned physical, the odds have already shifted against you, no matter how strong, trained, or confident you are (or think you are).

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