The cost of buying certainty.
It is often said that we cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them. While Iâve abandoned the exercise of solving problems (decolonizing my engineering training here), there IS the fact that we have global chaos to navigate. My system prefers optimism to dread⌠how about yours? If we agree that we would prefer to move through our current global metacrisis with optimism, then we can proceed to a different thinking / worldview that will create different circumstances. The Story of Separation (SOS) / Material Consciousness Charles Eisenstein coined the term âThe Story of Separationâ and the mantra of this story is: âweâre on our own, and if you canât see it, touch it and measure it, it doesnât exist.â The Story of Interbeing (SOI) / Planetary Consciousness Also coined by Charles Eisenstein, this story / way of thinking acknowledges that we are all interconnected, and that the choices we make not only matter, but influence others in immeasurable and intangible ways that cannot be neatly mapped in a linear way. I will contrast just three âbusiness as usualâ modern teachings based in the SOS with a few emerging teachings rooted in the SOI, and let you be the judge of what feels more supportive of life. SOS: âSet healthy boundaries, and enforce them.â Challenge: Boundaries are limitations. Setting them thus becomes restrictive to both parties. Further, en-force-ing them requires some level of psychological (or even physical) violence. SOI: Honor your natural boundaries, by listening to your bodyâs âYesâ and âNoâ responses, and then communicate from that centered space in a way that is respectful of all involved. When I started doing this, entire conversations shifted â from resentment to clarity. Fewer decisions required recovery afterward. SOS: âInstead of restricting your spending, make more money.â Challenge: Restricting your spending maintains a scarcity mindset, true. Making more money for the ungrounded purpose of being able to spend more creates a way of being that is disconnected from the way that money is made, and who had to pay for that.