Message: It's very easy for people outside yourself to look at your situation, your challenges, your decisions and only see them through the filter of what THEY would do. It's common for people to mean well, but cause harm by saying things like "Why don't you just...( Fill in the blank)?!" This is most often delivered when someone feels a certain thing would be easy for THEM to do, therefore - it should be easy for YOU to do... So why don't you just do it?! Without understanding for YOU as an autonomous person, this statement lands as a harmful and hurtful judgement on a perceived failure. An equal and opposite example is: "Oh! Are you sure you can... (Fill in the blank)?!" This is often delivered when someone with expansive thinking presents a new idea or a new plan with intention to take action, and the listener applies their own doubts in THEIR capabilities, onto YOUR idea. They instinctively know they themselves don't have the skill or intellect to accomplish this idea, and without thinking of YOU have the capacity for it, they verbally apply their own self doubt on your plans and ideas. This is often received by the sharer as the other person identifying short-coming or likely failure of YOU. And frequently results in people having a lessened sense of motivation, or experiencing complete abandonment of the idea or project. We will go deeper into both of these examples in video and live-stream, group sessions, but the message is: That others will cast their own doubts, judgements and expectations of themselves - on you! Remember that your challenges are your own, and do not require explanation. Your ideas and plans are your own, and do not require the approval of others... And the doubts of others are a reflection of the doubts they have in themselves... And are NOT a reflection of doubts you should have in yourself! Feel free to share similar experiences in the comments, for group discussion.

I used to think I just got bored with new ideas quickly... I'm only just now learning, that be getting bored with my own small businesses (even when successful) is actually an ADHD trait, resulting from the brain not feeling challenged, which can be a recipe for disaster in ownership if you don't recognize it. I now understand that just as my business gets to a point of being peacefully successful and "well-running" is the point I start to lose interest, because my brain doesn't feel as challenged. Now knowing this, I can plan ahead for this and have development projects strategically lines out, but oh the years and business ideas I have wasted on simply not understanding how my own psychology affects my business structure. 😅 *When we know better, we do better!

A sign you are heading in the right direction, is when people start to dislike you! This is typically a sign that you are either: - Beginning to outpace them - Beginning to voice your opinion more - Beginning to let it be known that you stand for something - Beginning to set and hold boundaries - Beginning to let people know when you disagree or disapprove... The shift within YOU may be so subtle that YOU yourself don't even notice it - but others WILL! They will probably notice it first, and the first thing YOU notice, will be that certain people are suddenly treating you differently, distancing themselves or speaking negatively about you. This can be confusing and even hurtful when you don't understand why .. but it's often because they recognize something in you that you haven't recognized in yourself. They recognize that you are leveling UP, and that they can no longer compete or compare. Let them cast their metaphorical "daggers". Let them cast "stones". There is a compliment hidden in there. Despite the words that come out of their mouths, what they are really saying is: " I can't compete with you anymore!" We will talk another day, about the cost of personal evolution; but for today... I just want to let you know - that if you notice you have started to make enemies, where you use to find only "friends"... It's because you're doing something RIGHT! Keep going! 💚💯

Conversation starter: post one decision that is weighing on your mind right now: Mine: I'm weighing the pros and cons of having a well-decorated home studio space where I can have permanently set up recording tools, vs. A less decorated and sess high end space, but one that is more mobile, so I can interview podcast guest wherever I am. I.e. conference room, hotel room, someone else's office... Feel free to offer your opinions and insight, and leave a comment with a choice you are currently facing. Also feel free to include if you are "just sharing" or if you are "Welcoming insight". I look forward to reading your posts.