Maybe the lights feel dimmer. Maybe the calendar moved too fast. Maybe you’re tired in a way sleep doesn’t fix. Here’s your gentle reminder though. A smile is the start of pleasure. Not the big, performative kind. The small one that sneaks up when something soft, silly, or familiar hits just right. You don’t have to force cheer. You’re allowed to let pleasure start quietly. 🍒 So tell me. What holiday song makes you smile every single time, no matter your mood? Mine is in the comments

We’re in a soft opening moment at Pleasure U-niversity, and I want to pause and name something. Twenty-five women have already raised their hand and said, “I’m curious about pleasure.” 💗 That matters. . . A lot! This isn’t about numbers. It’s about intention. It’s about choosing yourself even when you’re not totally sure what’s next. If you’re new here or still getting your bearings, your very first stop is the orientation course: {Start Here} First Taste of Pleasure U This course will walk you through how this space works, what to expect, and how to move through Pleasure U in a way that feels supportive instead of overwhelming. This is the foundation. Everything else builds from here. 🍒

People see Pleasure U-niversity and think, “Cool… so why aren’t we just getting straight to the sticking and poking?” Because sex doesn’t work like that. And pleasure sure as hell doesn’t. Yes, we will talk about sex. Explicitly. With our grown selves. But pleasure is a skill set, not a switch you flip when the lights go down. The way you set boundaries in everyday life . . . The way you ask for what you want without apologizing . . . The way you trust your body and stay present . . .That all shows up when you’re naked with someone. If you can’t say no in normal situations, it’s harder in bed. If confidence feels shaky outside the bedroom, it doesn’t magically get stronger mid-thrust. So yeah, we talk about other things on purpose. Because boundary setting and confidence in non-intimate moments translate directly to better sex. Pleasure is more than sex… and when you build the skill, the sex gets way better.

Can we agree on something before the week really gets going? You’re allowed to be curious. Not curious in a “blow up your life” way. Just curious in an honest, huh . . . that’s interesting kind of way. The kind where you notice what you like, what catches your attention, what your body leans toward, without immediately needing to explain or justify it. Exploring doesn’t mean acting. It doesn’t mean deciding anything. It just means letting yourself notice without rushing to shut it down or label it. 🍒 This week, try giving yourself permission to pause instead of dismiss. To think “I wonder why I like that” instead of “I shouldn’t.” To let curiosity be information, not a problem to solve. When was the last time you let yourself be curious without needing an answer?

If reading feels like work but movies light your brain right up, this one’s for you. We’re using film as a pleasure classroom. The good scenes. The cringe ones. The moments that made you lean in… and the ones that made you pause and say “wait, hold on.” Hollywood has shaped how a lot of us learned about desire. It’s time we talked about it. ✨ Head to the Skool classroom and check out Cinema & Sensuality 🗓️ Our live discussion is every 4th Sunday of the month Watch. Notice. Bring your thoughts. Or just lurk and learn. All styles welcome.