What’s one thing you wish your kid or students understood about you right now? Let’s connect in the comments. 🤝

A student once took her iPad out of the case, pulled her arm back, looked right at me, and said: “I’m going to throw this against the wall.” I didn’t panic. I didn’t raise my voice. I didn’t rush to control her. I calmly said: “I really wish you wouldn’t but you’re going to do what you’re going to do.” I’m not in control of a child’s behavior. I am in control of how I respond, document, and move forward and I already knew my next steps. Not reacting to everything isn’t being passive. It’s being regulated, intentional, and prepared. 💬 Let’s discuss…. - What behaviors tend to hook you emotionally the fastest? - How does not reacting feel different from not caring? - What helps you stay calm when a student or children is testing limits? - How does knowing your next steps reduce your need to react? - Where could less reaction actually create more safety?

🚫 Less: “You could…” “I would…” ✅ More: “We should…” “We could…” When adults jump straight to solutions, kids lose the chance to build theirs. Try this instead: 🧠 Brainstorm with them, not for them. 💬 Offer ideas alongside theirs. 🤝 Leave space for them to choose, tweak, or try. Support the process and don’t steal the problem-solving. 👉 What’s one phrase you’re trying to replace in your classroom or home?