Have you ever felt like you were on your own in life? That life was letting you down? That you couldn't ask anyone for help? Everyone has probably experienced this at least once or more. But the beauty of this is realizing that you are the foundation yourself, and that fundamentally, you are indeed on your own. To most of us, this doesn't sound very encouraging and might well evoke feelings of fear, sadness, or resistance. Which is understandable, because wouldn't we all want to fall back on something or someone when we are struggling and just don't know what to do anymore? In the past, as a child, you could do that with your parents. But as you get older, you probably start to realize that they don't know everything either, that they too have their own problems and unresolved traumas. Unfortunately, some children have parents they cannot rely on from a young age. And they learned back then that they had to do it alone, with all the consequences that entails. More information on that in another post. However, realizing more in adulthood that you sometimes stand alone can be a wonderful impetus for taking a step towards personal growth. These moments of feeling alone can help you turn inward and find and experience within yourself the support and strength you normally seek from others. People have so much more (inner) strength than they realize. And what is more beautiful than finding the strength in difficult moments to come to a solution yourself or to endure a difficult situation? Every time you succeed in doing this, you will be more present, and it will give you a boost in self-worth and self-confidence. You are the foundation of yourself; it sounds logical, but in practice, it often seems to be the opposite. People who constantly lean on others and thereby relinquish their responsibility and giving away their power. But also blame others when something happens to them or they are treated in a certain way. When someone touches you emotionally, you often blame the other person but forget to look at your own contribution. So instead of pointing the finger at the other person, reflect on what you could have done or said differently. And reflect on why it affected you so deeply.

Sometimes you have those days when everything is blah. When you don't feel like doing anything or don't want to interact with anyone. But you still have to leave the house to do some grocery shopping. On the way, you walk reluctantly towards the store, with your eyes fixed on the ground. You happen to look up briefly because someone is walking towards you and you want to be absolutely sure you don't bump into each other. The moment you make eye contact, the person says hello in a friendly manner. Somewhat surprised and taken aback, you say hello back at the last moment. You notice that your eyes are now slightly less fixed on the ground and you are looking around a bit more. Arriving at the store, you grab a cart outside. Just as you are about to enter the store, someone else arrives at the entrance at the same time. This person smiles kindly and says, "Please go ahead." You smile back and say, "Thank you." Feeling a bit more cheerful, you walk through the store and pick up the items you need. Arriving at the checkout, there is a long line. But you are already feeling more okay, you shrug your shoulders, and you even let someone go ahead of you who only has a few items. Arriving at the cashier, you smile kindly, whereupon she spontaneously strikes up a short conversation with you about someone who was ahead of you and who tried to teach her a few words of a foreign language. Once outside, you are cheerful and aware of your surroundings. You want to return your shopping cart but see someone walking up and offer it to this person. They are grateful and walk towards the store with a smile. This is a beautiful example of the wonderful effect the ripple effect can have, not only for yourself but also for other people. Often, we are the ones who have a positive effect on others. But sometimes, when you are having a bad day yourself, there are others who provide you with some positive energy. My personal motto is ‘lead by example,’ but of course, everyone has a bad day now and then, which is okay too. I find it very beautiful to see that the universe lets you experience that you get back what you give. And all those expressions like, ‘You reap what you sow,’ and ‘what goes around comes around,’ and of course, the meaning of karma. It almost seems like a universal law...

The moment you are born, you are empty and clean. Without preferences, opinions, judgments, and even without any thoughts. But as you grow as a baby, you learn things; you notice when you cry, you get food or something to drink, and your diaper gets changed. This is how the first conditionings are formed. And how your parents treat you, how they feel, and the energy they bring with them and radiate will gradually shape you as a person. As a baby, you are so open to influences and energy from your environment, especially from your parents. You copy certain facial expressions and learn certain skills. As you get older you develop preferences, opinions, etc. As a child, you join a sport that you like, or rather, think you like. After all, how many of us, as children, take up a sport that one of our parents also likes or does, or perhaps because a friend does it? You form opinions about other children based on the norms and values ​​you have adopted from your parents, or opinions from other peers. And so, as you get older, there are all kinds of external influences that shape and condition you as a person. And the "choices" you make stem less and less from who you were at birth, and more and more from your formed new self (ego). That ego, with which you identify more and more, consequently becomes stronger and claims a right to exist within you. And it will do whatever it takes to continue existing. For more and more people, depending on how strongly that ego has been shaped over the years, a feeling or little voice will emerge from deep inside. This indicates that something is wrong not only with that formed little self, but also with the people around you and the world. You come into increasing conflict with everything, and more and more resistance arises. These are often the first signals for people to start delving into topics of personal development and/or spirituality. Hopefully, along this path, you will encounter one of the most important philosophical questions: ‘who am I?’ or ‘what am I?’. A good way to gain more insight into this is primarily to ask the opposing question: ‘who or what am I not?’. Try doing this, peeling of layer by layer, examining, analyzing, and being critical to see what remains at the end of the line and who and what you really are…

You might wonder why self-healing and why embark on that endlessly long path of personal growth. Who among us can truly say they fully accept themselves and are okay with everything they feel and experience? Most of us are not there yet, and as a result, we keep attracting situations into our lives that remind us of this. That reminds us that there are still unprocessed traumas and old wounds that need to be healed. Time and time again, you are given the opportunity to do this. If you don't, you simply get the chance again a while later in a similar experience. That is why many people live in circles and keep asking themselves (if they are even aware of it) why the same thing keeps happening to them every time. It seems that the universe, consciousness energy, life, God, or whatever beautiful name you have come up with for it, is asking you to look at something and giving you the opportunity to deal with a situation differently. Just look back at your own life and try to recognize if there are certain similar situations or patterns that keep repeating themselves. Often, these situations are related to traumas and wounds from the past, largely from childhood. During childhood, you are often not yet strong enough and do not yet possess the tools to fully experience intense situations that evoke intense feelings and emotions. This is because it is too overwhelming for your system, causing them to be repressed. It can also be that we experience a lack of access to our parents or caregivers regarding our emotions and feelings because they are not physically or emotionally available. This creates a sense of insecurity, which is also a traumatic experience and brings with it all kinds of blockages. Unhealthy patterns and conditionings arise from these traumas, wounds, and blockages. I will explain how to recognize and break these in the video "Recognizing and Breaking Patterns." Not fully experiencing or expressing feelings and emotions, and repressing them, causes blockages and contamination on multiple energetic levels. This is because the energetic charge of the situations and associated feelings and emotions are still present. When this is not healed, this will eventually manifest as physical complaints or even illness. Most people are only aware of a physical body and are unaware that there are several energetic layers. These layers transmit signals from the higher to the lower layers, with the physical body at the bottom. In the videos about the different energetic layers, I will delve deeper into this and explain how they work, as well as how to connect with and cleanse them.

Over the years, I have meditated quite a bit. Through this, I have learned so many different things that could be another topic on its own. But one of the things I learned is to connect with the different layers of energy and to cleanse and heal them. I also discovered that I could use my energy to connect with others and let my energy shine far beyond myself. Over the years, I have learned to (re)connect with my core star and I have visualized this energy far beyond myself, bigger and further, connecting with other core stars and like-minded people all over the world. To the people who are close and dear to me, but also to the people who have hurt me in the past and whom I don't like that much. I could continue doing this for the rest of my life by myself. But for the past few weeks, the idea has been coming up more and more how great and powerful it could be to do this with a group of people. Shining this light, this positive energy together at the same moment will make it so much stronger and we could reach so many more people. And it won’t change the world overnight of course but when we do this on a regular basis I’m convinced something is going to change. Doing this in a group allows you not only to shine your own light and energy into the world, but because you are also very open and attuned to each other in that moment, you will receive that lovely energy even more yourself as well. So it is actually a win-win situation! It will be the strongest if you could do this from your core star, because this is the place where your deepest self resides, your foundation, your source, your soul, your unconditional love at the deepest level. This is the level that radiates through and encompasses all the other layers. I will make some guidance videos in the future on how to connect with the different energy levels and how to heal them. But if you are not yet able to do this, that is perfectly fine and is absolutely not a requirement. You can still let your light and positive energy shine and connect with others. You can do this in different ways depending on which level(s) you can connect with. From the physical body, your heart; from your chakras, your 7th crown chakra and 9th universal chakra, though I think the last one is unknown to most.