When someone comes at you to attack you with words and you respond immediately you have a great comeback. You might have even won the argument, but you did loose something, you’ve shown them exactly how to get to you. But when someone attacks you and you say nothing, everything shifts. Silence in the right moment, is the most destabilizing response you can give. Because the human brain is wired to expect reaction. When someone attacks and throws a verbal punch and it hits air, it creates a psychological reaction that they do not know what to do with it. They expected resistance and got nothing. That silence starts to work on them in ways words could never do. The uncertainty eats at them. The not knowing is genuinely torturous for someone who wanted to get a reaction from you. Meanwhile you moved on with your life.

Just an observation I've made. In many videos, articles, etc. when talking about how it is bad to wear logos on your clothes, the infamous Gucci belt buckle is often cited for reference. Wearing the belt buckle is seen as being pretentious because of the logo. The RMRS community in particular has made it clear that wearing company logos is the opposite of stylish. There is another belt who's buckle is the company logo. Anson Belts. Anson belts are seen often in the OOTD postings. Many here would probably recommend Anson Belts. They are often a sponsor for RMRS YouTube videos as well as other Style-Tubers. The question is, besides price and esthetics, what's the difference? Either way, you are wearing a company logo as a belt buckle. All this said, I wouldn't wear a Gucci belt if it was gifted to me. I don't like the esthetic. I have an Anson Belt box being shipped to me as we speak. Not sure about Anson but giving it a try. Fare warning, I will be challenging responses, not because I think people are wrong, but because I feel it is important to challenge perceptions. My goal is to make you think.

The older I get, the more I find myself thinking about how much of life is shaped by the choices we make. Not just the big choices. The small ones too. How we start the day. How we respond when something does not go our way. How we treat people. How we take care of ourselves. How we present ourselves. What we give our attention to. What we allow to influence us. Even choosing not to decide is still, in its own way, a choice. I think that realization has made me much more intentional about the life I want to live. I choose gratitude. I choose to look for reasons to be happy. I choose contentment — not because I have stopped growing or learning, but because I do not want my happiness to depend on constantly chasing something else. I choose to keep improving while still appreciating who I am today. I choose to take care in how I dress and present myself because it reflects the standard I want to hold myself to. And that includes the little things too. I choose to be well groomed. I choose to take care of my skin and moisturize. I choose a fragrance because I enjoy smelling good and because, to me, that is simply another part of presenting myself with care. None of those things are about vanity. They are about stewardship. Taking care of myself. Taking pride in the details. And showing up in a way that feels consistent with who I want to be. I also choose to be available to other people. To encourage. To help. To mentor when I can. To share what I have learned while respecting that everyone else is on their own journey. That may be one of the most important choices of all. Because whatever experience, knowledge, confidence, or perspective we gain along the way means more, at least to me, when we can use some of it to help somebody else. And perhaps just as importantly, I choose not to let every outside opinion carry the same weight. That does not mean I am unwilling to listen. Quite the opposite. I hope I am always willing to learn, reconsider, and improve.

#DRAWINGTHELINE Should a DISTINGUISHED GENTLEMAN wear earrings, as part of his wardrobe, if his ears are still pierced? At what point, in YOUR OPINION , do you draw the line when accessorising your particular wardrobe? Do you agree or disagree? What are YOUR THOUGHTS?

Good morning everyone. I wanted to ask this and if it’s repeating something that’s already posted I apologize. Have any of you ever like looked into what colors seem to naturally work best for you or do you pretty much just go with what attracts you when you’re picking out styles, fabrics and colors? Obviously there’s an economic. Obviously there’s a economic approach to it and when you’re doing most of your shopping at Goodwill, you certainly have to take what you can but I am just curious as to how many of you approach purchasing Clothing from a color or shade aspect. Thank you in advance for all your help.