Good morning gentlemen, I can recall there was a period in my young adult age where I thought I had it all figured out, and if I didn’t I was smart enough to figure it out on my own. One thing that I have come to the knowledge is that a person think they know it all is not only dangerous but unstable. Especially when they feel they don’t need to learn and grow. And learning is not just in education, but in life as well. But here is the reality that can be harder to swallow and digest for a person in this mindset. What you think you know it is not letting you grow? I don’t know who needs to hear this, but you are surrounded by all the information you need to get what you’re trying to go. You’re surrounded by all the information you need to get what you’re trying to go but your blind; but instead of getting information, on what you think you already know, got you looking for confirmation. What you think you already know is just getting in your way. This has you ignoring all the right information. Sometimes you have to just be quiet. Stop listening to comments, stop listening to give your responses, just listen and will become teachable again again. Stop using the same old knowledge, same old beliefs, trying to get different results. Stop thinking you know; nobody knows everything, you have gotten as far as you gonna go on what you think you already know. Especially those of us who have been around for awhile. We used to know everything and it worked for a while, and what we used to win with is not working no more. It is a new day, new time, everything changed so fast, you have to stop and listen. That’s the only way you going to survive these times that are changing, just be quiet and listen. One of our greatest attributes as gentlemen is the knowledge that we do not know everything, and the wisdom and ability to want to learn and grow.

Wife getting me trimmed up, hot shower , cologne and then heading to dinner

Have you ever had to get to a place or a destination and you hit a delay? I was on my way to Florida for a business trip, now I get to the airport to fly to Florida 4 PM. I get a notification on my phone, your flight’s been delayed by several hours. I’m now gonna miss my connecting flight. Here is the thing, in my younger days and before my journey, I would’ve been really angry and upset in that moment and I would’ve ran over to the gate and probably made a fool of myself by yelling at the agent standing behind the Delta counter and I would say say something like “ Are you %*#% serious! my flight has been delayed and I’m going to miss my connecting flight, are you *#%*# serious!This is crazy. Now I’m not gonna make it to my destination on time. “ Do you think I would’ve gotten anywhere if I went up to the counter like this now? Not to mention I am in a two piece suit, so you know I stand out more than most traveling. What I did was I that I walked over to the counter, trying to maintain a positive attitude. I smiled at the lady behind the counter and I said “ma’am, I heard your professional problem solver is that true?” and she started smiling. Then I said ,”I heard you’re so good at solving problems and pay you to do it!” This got her smiling ,and I said “look I have a problem. I know it’s not actually yours so if you can’t solve it, I understand but if you can, it would mean the world to me, I have a client that is in Florida waiting for me to help them with a very serious matter.” She smiled and said let me see what I can do,and she starts punching her computer keypad and she looks at me. She says I’m really sorry there’s only one flight tomorrow it’s gonna get you there at 10 AM tomorrow . There’s one more flight tonight but it’s flying standby. Meaning there’s no seats available. You’re gonna wait by the gate if you get a seat they’ll put you on if not, they will put you in a hotel. I said “OK that’s sounds good, thank you so much I the effort.” Sorry, one second sir, she keeps punching away at her keypad two minutes later she walks in front of the gate and she comes up to me and she hand me a boarding pass and she says I got you to see on the plane tonight. I was like, “the computer did it or did you do it? “ She goes, it was kind of both.

Good morning gentlemen, Have you ever been in a situation where you reacted instead of responding? When someone does or says something and you immediately come back at them, that is reacting not responding. But if you take a moment, pause think then you are responding and not reacting. But there is another side of this, not every situation requires you to react or respond. Because when you realize that that person’s actions are merely to get you out of character, or to get a reaction from you, your response or reaction is exactly what they want. When you come back at them, you are allowing them to control you. Sometimes you have to let a fool think they won. When you do not respond to their actions, they think you forgot. But they just don’t know; like a real gentleman, just took it to the chin and not the heart . You chose to let it go, because sometimes you gotta let it go just so you could grow. But they will know not to try that again. One of my favorite songs by Kenny Rogers “The Gambler”, in the song he says, “ You have to know when to hold them”, “know when to fold them,” “know when to walk away,” know when to run”. You have to know when to hold them accountable. You have to know when to fold their lies, their accusations, and their actions into revealing the truth. Know when to walk away because it’s just not worth it. And know when to run from a potential situations that will cost you more in the end. ( like arranging the furniture on the deck of the Titanic.). You are better than that, do not buy into someone’s foolishness.

Good morning gentlemen: Today I want to hear the views from everyone on this subject that I read about not too long ago. Many will agree and many will not agree. But this is a great discussion that as gentlemen we can discuss and understand and values each other views on this topic. And this is where the gentlemen aspect comes in; not everyone is going to see it the same way or agree with each other, but we can have an open dialogue and maybe we can help each other either understand or maybe just maybe we can come together and figure out what went wrong or what can we do to improve this world; to help those in the decision making, make the right choices for the betterment it this current and future world situation. Why do we spend years in school learning stuff we never use when real skills are learned on the job anyway? It’s because education isn’t about teaching you anymore, it’s about filtering you out of the job market Too many people want the same jobs; companies need a way to cut the crowd, so they add requirements not because the job got harder because they can. So they just keep adding years; look at your grandfather, high school diploma got a factory supervisor job, bought a house, raised a family that was the 1950s. Now you need a bachelors or masters degree for that same lifestyle; same lifestyle same outcome, way more education. The job didn’t change the competition did; so engineering just made up extra years, engineers with bachelors built the skyscrapers you see now, but now companies want masters for the same work. Lawyers used to do four years of school, now it’s seven years plus exams, plus internships. Medicine went from 10 years of training to 15 not because bodies got more complex, because they could. Everyone says school teaches you critical thinking; some of it just math, logic, and reasoning. But here’s the thing you don’t need four years for that; Singapore does it in less time, South Korea does it faster, the extra years aren’t about learning they’re about sorting. So who actually benefits from this three groups? Universities make billions from extra tuition; more years equals more money, corporations get free employee screening, the government pays to educate you and then they just pick who they want. The government‘s hide unemployment, if you’re in school because you’re not officially jobless.