Sorry, You wont find advice on how to be successful in this post just a lot of rambling When I I first joined MOA, I struggled a lot with Rule #1. Half the times I got yelled at by Mike were because I was listening to the words. 10 months later, I can tell you the hardest rule is actually Rule #5. Its extremely hard to find balance (ne, contrast) between other goals in life and having a great social life. As you start climbing the local social ladder, the FOMO gets even stronger because : 1. you know you belong at that table with those people and you are instead at home prioritizing other goals so you feel FOMO for not being out with them 2. you see people who are ahead of you in the game and for the first time in life you actually know the exact steps to follow to get to their level of power and status so you feel bad for not spending all your time trying to climb the social ladder. I dont know the answer but I know this is something I am struggling with. I think its extremely important to set realistic expectations of what you want to accomplish in the short term, medium term and long term. My thinking is now more long term as short term successes were not as fulfulling as I thought they would be (they were for like one month...) so thats one way I rationalize missing out on fun times while I pursue other goals that will help me long term. Long Term plans are still full steam ahead - status is status is status. Contrast is still important - I still hang out with female friends 2x a week. Also I look at the guys and girls who go out everyday I hang out with and I just dont want to be like them. They have nothing else going on in their lives - no hobbies, no passion, no other goals. They are on molly and then K and then what not all the time. I wanna build design airplanes, snowboard, fly aerobatics, get back to skydiving at some point, make way more money so I am financially free.... it just doesnt feel right being in that crowd all the time - even though I know how to fit in without doing all the stupid shit they put in their bodies.