My first ever book - The Legendary Life - describes the complete practical process of figuring out who you want to be and what you want to do with your life, from choosing values through to goal setting and self-motivation exercises. The first 10 people to comment "Legendary" below will get sent a free copy!

Hey everyone My respect goes out to all the participants of October’s Social Circle Building 30 Day challenge. It started off light, but quickly got intense. There were amazing acts of bravery, heartwarming connections, and some unexpected results. And I was stoked to see you all supporting each other. (If you want to review the adventure, check out all the players’ posts in the thread here). In this email I will announce the winners and their prizes, and ask for your feedback about running a potential workshop on social confidence and social circle building. WINNERS Grand Prize: @Jason Stobart with 663 points wins - 4x private 1:1 coaching sessions with me (worth $2,600!) - 3-months’ free Brotherhood membership (worth $150) Jason’s bravery with facing rejections and humiliation, combined with his dedication to doing 90% of the activities gave him a firm lead. Congrats!! 2nd Place: @Dana R with 381 points wins - 1x private 1:1 coaching session (worth $650) - 2-months’ Brotherhood membership (worth $100) Dana demonstrated a willingness to try new things and take on a leadership role in her social life that has created real results. 3rd Place: @Aaron Frater with 119 points wins - 2-month Brotherhood membership (worth $100) I was stoked to see Aaron specialize in bringing friends together and creating deeper connections with people already in his life. People’s Choice Award (most supportive player): @Aaron Frater with 12 bonus points also wins - an Integrity Army T-shirt (worth $50) Participation prize: @Adargoma Shayonêh , @Prateek G , @Rutger Diergaarde , @Sid M , @Ernie Jamison , @Hemi Rainford , @Ryan Adams and @Jason Hipp all got points on the board and will get

My Son turned 16 yesterday. He lives only down the road from me. He doesn't reply to my simple messages. I stopped communicating with the mother a year ago because she doesn't reply either unless she wants to have a go at me. That's what it feels like. He was busy yesterday so today I cooked and baked and bought a cake, thinking he'll come up once he's finished what he's doing. Even though messages to get clarity on that were met once again with nothing. I thought to myself, all I can do is do my best for the things I can control and not get angry because of my pain from how I feel they're treating me, and get sad and want to throw the towel in and do nothing. That wouldn't be fair on him because he's just a teenager, a child. So I have to be the adult and still be there for my Son and not try to control what I assume is going on outside of me. I have a feeling this all stems from the mother's pain if any, she has with me. And also my lack of boundaries and lack of asking for respect and showing that I at least mean something to myself. I messaged the mother tonight and she said no he's not coming. I don't want to reply to her and get more sad. This has been going on for ages but getting gradually worse and worse. No cooperation at all. I feel like going away and pretending they don't exist anymore.

Today's challenge is both simple and powerful: invite someone you haven't spoken to in a while for an in-person catch up, e.g. old friend, cousin, ex-colleague. You get 2 points per invitation. You can prove you did the invitation by posting a screenshot in comments of this thread (make sure you blur or cut out any name or picture that identifies the other person - if you don't know how to do this, DM me the proof instead of commenting below). BONUS! You get 15 extra points if you can prove the catch up actually happened, e.g. selfie of you having a drink together - this can be done later in the week/month. This video from the Building Rapport course talks a bit about approaching people (but it's more aimed at strangers) https://www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491/classroom/85ce3f87?md=db8a6006170345b7984ec3d97e4c7b59 CURRENT LEADERBOARD TOP 5 @Rutger Diergaarde 19 pts @Aaron Frater 18 pts @Sid M 16 pts @Jason Stobart and @Ernie Jamison 15 pts You can catch up on your challenges and score bonus points by supporting others at any time - just scroll through the 30 day challenge thread here: https://www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491?c=b4ccdb0a5fbe4610b22ad78c48a2dabb&s=newest-cm&fl=

But not just any compliment - one that shows how you feel about them! Use the format "What I noticed" + "how it made me feel" e.g. "I heard how you dealt with that difficult customer and it impressed me" "When I saw you come into the room I got a rush of excitement" "The way you listen to me makes me feel like I matter" This video from the Building Rapport course breaks down how to give a connection-building compliment https://www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491/classroom/85ce3f87?md=17dda79a34e944a28b7c98dde98fc688 This is worth 5 points - describe the compliment you gave in the comments below to get your points: who did you compliment, what did you say, and how did they react. BONUS: You get 20 points if you can film yourself approaching a random stranger and giving them a compliment (have the camera aimed at yourself rather than filming them). CURRENT LEADERBOARD @Rutger Diergaarde 21pts @Aaron Frater 20pts @Dana R 18pts @Jason Stobart 17pts @Sid M 16 pts @Ernie Jamison 15 pts @Ryan Adams @Jason Hipp @Hemi Rainford 5 pts