radical self-ACTivation

3d (edited) • Frameworks

“Ok, Deborah, I’ll bite. How do I close the gap between who I’m being and who I’m portraying myself to be?”

So glad you asked.

As a quick recap: the incongruency gap is what makes people promise the moon and stars and wince at bringing the groceries.

You’ve been that person, you’ve also dealt with that person.

Zero judgment. This is a natural phase in our growth and development as sovereign beings.

And actually, zero judgment is where you start.

Radical Self-ACTivation is the practice of 360 degree Self-Acceptance, Self-Compassion, and Self-Trust (ACT).

It’s radical because it flies in the face of many, many practices common in ‘business as usual’.

In fact, as simple as it is, the societal environment we are immersed in can make it look extreme.

So, to close the gap between who you are being and who you want to be, want to be who you are being.

No, this is not semantics.

This is the secret few speak about in human development spaces.

Our performance- and profit-driven ‘business as usual’ world poopoos on truly accepting ourselves.

We’re encouraged to focus on outcomes and strive to make whatever changes necessary to be able to meet those expected outcomes.

This keeps us in fear, because, have you seen life? How likely is it that you can create expected outcomes you made up in your head without valiant effort to control external conditions?

It’s not going to happen.

So then you’re shamed into believing that it’s a bad thing that you can’t control your life.

You’re encouraged to push harder, set SMART goals, develop greater discipline.

Society applauds feats of sheer willpower where humans push past their apparent physical limits to achieve the “impossible”.

You literally are conditioned to believe that not listening to your body, putting ‘mind over matter’ and destroying our connection to natural safeguards – communicated limits and boundaries – is the goal.

NO.

Global villagers do not think this way.

We Accept each and every part of ourselves as they present in each moment.

We are Compassionate in listening to every part of ourselves, without judgment or threat of violence.

And we Trust that all of our body, including and especially our mind, hold wisdom and have something valuable to offer.

This is radical Self-ACTivation in effect.

And it begins with wanting to be exactly where we are, instead of wanting to be somewhere we’re not.

We go from wanting to transform, wanting to heal… to being content with who we are in this moment.

It’s only after reaching this contentment that the BIG healings and transformations occur, silently, almost imperceptibly.

It’s not a joke. It’s not a coincidence.

It’s living life by design.

If you felt seen by this commentary, you are far from alone.