I Love You, Man! The Male Loneliness Epidemic
The internet loves to make it look like men’s loneliness is all about not having a romantic partner, but that’s really not the full story. I won’t pretend to speak for men, but one thing I do know is that men want, and absolutely deserve the same depth of connection and community that women often find more easily. And yet, it’s so much harder for many men to find a space that actually feels safe. We see you. We know it’s not easy to be vulnerable around your mates, the same lads you’ve known forever, who show affection by taking the piss, but still don’t quite know how to offer a proper hug when you or they actually need one. We know you’re trying. And we know that the behaviour of a few “lesser men” makes it harder for the good ones to connect with others who are kind, open, growing, and genuinely trying to heal. We know some of you are curious about holistic healing, but old conditioning whispers that wanting to heal makes you weak, that crying is weakness, that hugging another bloke or telling him you’re proud of him is “soft” or “unmanly”. When in reality, every bit of that takes real strength. All of those beliefs are gatekeepers standing between you and real self-acceptance and every single one of them is FALSE. Choosing to heal makes you stronger. It makes you someone others feel safe connecting with. It makes you someone who takes responsibility for their own wellbeing, and that ripples out to your friends, partners, and children. It helps you become the best version of yourself, someone you can genuinely respect and love. Being the first to make a change can be scary and uncomfortable, but speaking from experience, choosing yourself is life-changing in the most beautiful ways. I’ve been hosting healing circles for nearly three years now. I’m not here to claim expertise on men’s issues, but I canoffer a space for connection, with yourself, with other men, and with nature. I’d love to know if you’d be brave enough to take that step and join me for a men’s healing circle. No date yet—I want your input.