“The Law Of Identity” How Are U Going To Show Up In 26’?”

Yo, Merry Christmas & Happy Holidays Community. Just tapping to share an experience that might resonate with you. The holidays can be stressful. As a matter fact of will be sitting on a panel of experts on how to manage holiday stress. One reminder in this communication today is to let this be a reminder to manage your self-care. Find fun and appreciate those moments that seem insignificant. The family was out for dinner in Chicago at the Navy Pier. We were proceeding past build a bear and I wanted a souvenir. I reached for a teddy bear and then I paused. And there he was - It was a the Grinch. An employee pointed me to the bin. There he was, I picked him up, - just a shell, no filling, no life, LOL no emotions aka “just a shell of himself’- He did have a heart, three sizes large attached to him. I didn’t know at the time, build a bear stuffed animals come with a heart - I engaged in build a bear ritual right before I inserted his heart into his back. I got a Birth Certificate & A build a bear house. “Sometimes the right questions can be so powerful.” Sitting at the table waiting for our food, He asked “what was the most enjoyable moment so far this evening.” I was not fully present because I loathe these moments - I often see this questions as time fillers. However, on this occasion, after I locked in - something was different - I did have a most enjoyable moment, with a smile on my face I said “I got one, it’s my Grinch.” Now looking back, the way my brain works.l, as the build a bear added value by stuffing my Grinch - my Grinch probably 3x’d in value versus the cost of just the shell I initially picked up out of a bin. Then it hit me, That’s my role here, stuff my guys, create value - create rituals - put a smile on their face. Moral of the story, create, recognize & make note of fun memories with meaningful others. Appreciate You Community .

What's up community, Happy Monday. I wanted to share a post I recently added to my blog at babystepssaq mental coaching site - bsaq1.com I wanted this community to meet another bad dude who, if you let him not can, will take over the reins causing us to lose emotional control during intense fellowship. (And How to Take the Reins Back). Here is a clue this dude has showed up and showed out in your last conversation. First you are going to realize your clear self have left the room for.a couple of minutes or so—next you will find yourself saying things you regret behaving that way, you begin shut down, or blowing up in the first place—Guys as I told you before, you’re not broken - You’re being hijacked. By who you may ask - I call this part of you the Chimp. Here is the thing - All of us have one. In the lens of the Grinch, the Chimp takes the reins from the Grinch. And until you learn how to work with him not against it, when it's to communicate, in these moments, you will feel the pressure, and your relationship will continue to feel like a performance anxiety issue in Crunch Time. The Chimp Inside Every Man When I worked with athletes as a sports psychotherapist I came across Dr. Steve Peters. In his book The Chimp Paradox by Dr. Peters explains that the Chimp is an emotional survival system that thinks independently from your calm, rational self. Its only job? - Keep you alive. HERE IS THE THING: Your Chimp doesn’t know the difference between a physical threat and an emotional one. - So when your partner raises their voice…, Speaks to you like your mother, Trigger your inner child, When you feel criticized…, When conflict shows up… and on and on, and on - The brain sounds the "Red code alert." Simple brain science reminds us hormones flood your body, The Chimp takes the wheel, Your thinking brain in now offline and this is the reason "Why the Grinch, Grinch's" Why I Teach This With Toys (Yes, Toys) Overtime I will introduce to a bunch of my characters.

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Happy New Year, Community. I’m landing the fatherhood plane hot with my first entry of ’26. I stayed quiet over the holidays — not because I had nothing to say - my mind was with the fathers navigating shared parenting for the first time. If that’s you, this post is for you. Within the last 24 hours here in Columbus, Ohio, OH -- --, here the temperature dropped from the mid-50s to the low 20s with 40 + mph winds. I stayed inside and put on one last Christmas movie before calling it a season — "Joint Custody" on Prime. I thought I knew where it was going.I didn’t. Early in the film, this line hit me: “No family follows the same path. Every member of every family has their own unique adventure… Every Christmas memory has a story.” That’s the truth most men don’t get permission to say out loud. Our experience as fathers is subjective — and when we don’t talk about it, we suffer in silence. Guys hear the Kris voice in your head, "no matter suffering in silence." So I’ll go first. My First JCC (Joint Custody Christmas) Even now, as I write this, I can feel the energy still living in my body. If I were using my feelings wheel, sadness is at the center of this energy. My first JCC was spent in a Red Roof Inn with my two little guys. - Two beds.Chicken wings. Pizza. and guilth Disney Dad mode fully activated. When my boys fell asleep, I kept running back and forth to my car unloading gifts. I’d stop, pause, and just watch them sleep. In the middle of chaos, that moment always brought me peace. Early the next morning, they opened their gifts — electric football was the hit that year. Here’s the lesson I didn’t understand yet as a JCC newbie. When emotions are overwhelming, men make short-term decisions with long-term consequences. I didn’t need a hotel room.I needed support. The shame I felt caused me to stay stuck in rugged individualism — suffering quietly, feeling embarrasssed, thinking it's best to go at this alone. In hindsight, If I had reached out, leaned into the wisdom of the guys around me who done the JCC before - would have reminded me of the truth: