Often times, we respond in anger when something hurts us or worse yet, when we are afraid of something hurting us (again). Consider what it would be like if the hurt we feel could be cared for. What would it be like if it was safe enough to allow that hurt to heal, instead of being afraid of being hurt again? Have you considered how hurt sets off a defensive anger? I would be interested to hear your story (without entering into too much sensitive information), and I think we could all learn from each other on how to get a better handle on this aspect of our angry sides.