Need honest feedback + a fair reset (re: bans & access)

Nov '25 • ❤️Mental health support unit❤️

Hey everyone — I’m asking this publicly because I genuinely want to understand what I’ve done wrong and fix it properly.

Over the last few weeks I’ve invested heavily into Skool communities and prompt/software packs to learn and level up my own projects. In total I’m about £500 in across different groups, licences, and prompt shops. I joined with one intention: to learn the material, follow the systems, and build results. I wasn’t joining to cause problems or mess anyone about.

But I’ve been banned from multiple communities extremely fast, sometimes within minutes or a day, and I haven’t been given a clear reason. I’m not here to argue or point fingers — I’m here to understand the rules so I don’t repeat the same mistake.

One thing I did do (and I’m now thinking this might be the trigger) is: when I join a new course/group, I sometimes add a few members to connect and get acquainted. I’ve done that in other places and thought it was normal networking, but I’m realising some communities may see that as spam or against their rules. If that’s what’s happened, I’ll hold my hands up — I won’t do it again.

I’m also wired a bit differently (ADHD), so I can move fast and miss a rule until after. That’s not an excuse — just context. I’m learning by my mistakes and I want to move right.

The hard part is I’m now sitting on software/prompts I paid for but didn’t get enough time in the learning groups to properly understand how to use them. That’s left me stressed and behind where I was hoping to be.

So I’m asking for real guidance from the community:

• What Skool etiquette/rules commonly trigger instant bans?

• Is adding members right after joining seen as spam in most groups?

• What’s the best way to join a community, learn properly, and avoid setting off alarms?

And to any admins/creators who see this:

If I’ve broken a rule, I’m genuinely sorry. I’m not trying to be difficult — I just want a fair way to fix it.

Is there any way I can get a short reinstatement / trial window (even 7–14 days) so I can access the learning properly and show I’ll follow the rules?

I’m here to learn, do things the right way, and build. Any help — even if it’s blunt — I’d appreciate it.

Thanks in advance.

— James

8 comments