I did a Peloton ride the other morning and the instructor said something that really stuck with me. He talked about how when you’re driving and the sat-nav is on, if you take a wrong turn it never says, “you’ve messed up” or “you’re lost”. It just calmly says, rerouting. And I thought… why don’t we allow ourselves that same grace in life? The last couple of weeks have been exactly that for me. Lots of turns. Lots of questioning myself. Wondering if I’m doing the right thing. Doubting whether I’m capable. That familiar voice asking, who do you think you are doing this? I’ve been trying to establish Radiance Quest while also figuring out how to support it financially. My day job pays my bills and keeps the roof over my head, but there’s so much more I want to do. Courses I want to take. Things I want to learn. Ways I want to grow and then bring that learning back to help others. And for a while I felt like I was going the wrong way. But I’m not lost. I’m just rerouting. Every step, every detour, every “this isn’t quite it” moment has helped me see things more clearly. There is another path. Sometimes a better one. Sometimes one you couldn’t see until you took a few wrong turns first. If you’re feeling stuck, behind, or like you’ve gone off course — you haven’t failed. You haven’t ruined anything. You’re allowed to reroute too. Everything is fixable. You can rewrite the route. And you’re still very much on your way.

This year I’m trying to do a lot. Building Radiance Quest. Getting more embedded in the community. Working on my own business ideas alongside the day job. And if I’m honest, my head is never quiet. I have thousands of thoughts and ideas at any one time. Good ideas. Exciting ideas. But when there are that many, it can actually be crippling. Instead of moving forward, I stall. Then I procrastinate. Then I spiral. And before you know it… I do nothing. I have notes in my phone, emails I send to myself, bits of paper, random notebooks, screenshots, voice notes. Everything everywhere. And trying to keep track of it all just adds to the overwhelm. I was chatting to a few people about this and they all said the same thing: one notebook. One master notebook where everything goes. No other notes. No scraps. No phone notes. That notebook becomes the master plan. The Bible of your life. The idea is simple: - Everything goes into that one notebook - Every morning you review the last few pages - You circle what’s important - You star what’s urgent - And those are the things you focus on that day Nothing else. No mental juggling. No trying to remember where you wrote something down. I’ve started doing this and honestly… it’s calming. It gives my brain somewhere to rest. I wanted to share this because I know it’s not just me. So many people struggle with this and never talk about it. And it can stop us from reaching our full potential, not because we’re lazy, but because we’re overloaded. If this helps even one person feel a bit more organised or a bit less alone, then it’s worth sharing 🤍

This week has definitely thrown a few curveballs… and I know I’m not the only one feeling it — especially here in Fermanagh. My car slid backwards down a hill, I got out to try and get help, slipped on the ice and ended up with whiplash and a few sore bits to go with it. Not exactly how I planned to start the year 😅 But here’s the thing. This year, I want it to be another really good year for me — for my health, my weight loss, and my mindset. I want to do the very best I can in every sense. And moments like this? They’re exactly when our minds try to convince us to give up — even if it’s “just for a few days”. I’m not doing that. I’ve been reminding myself that doing your best doesn’t always look the same. Some days it’s a big workout. Some days it’s just getting out for a gentle walk. And when the roads are a sheet of black ice and walking or driving just isn’t safe? You adapt. So today I dusted off the Peloton — which has been badly neglected the past few months — and honestly, it felt great. Legs moving. Heart pumping. Mood lifted. Anyone who knows me (or my coach Mike 😂) knows how much I claim to dislike cardio… but I’d forgotten how much I actually enjoy it once I start. And the truth is, cardio is something I need to focus on — alongside stretching and recovery. This is your reminder: You don’t need perfect conditions. You don’t need to go all-out. You just need to keep showing up in whatever way you can today. Rest when you need to. Adapt when you have to. But don’t give up on yourself. We keep going 🤍

After sharing about my anxiety around driving, I wanted to follow up with this — because I know how frustrating it can be when people say things like “just breathe” or “try not to worry”. These are the tools I genuinely use. They don’t make anxiety disappear — but they stop it running the show. 1. I narrate safety to myself When my anxiety spikes, I quietly repeat things like: “We’re ok. We’re doing ok. I’m safe right now.” It might sound simple, but grounding your brain in the present moment really helps interrupt the spiral. 2. I remove extra stimulation Radio off. No podcasts. No noise. Silence helps me focus and stops my nervous system from tipping into overload. 3. I slow things right down — without apologising If I need to slow or stop, I do. Anxiety eases when I stop judging myself for what I should be able to do. 4. I prepare instead of pushing through Knowing my car needs work heightened my anxiety massively. So I name that. I plan around it. I don’t gaslight myself into pretending it’s not a factor. 5. I let the feeling pass instead of fighting it I remind myself: this is uncomfortable, not dangerous. Anxiety peaks and falls — even when it feels endless. 6. I talk about it — and I get support This one has been huge for me. I’ve been to counselling, and I honestly recommend it to everyone. Having a safe, neutral space to talk things through has helped me understand my anxiety instead of fearing it. I’m also incredibly lucky to have an amazing support network — coaches who guide me, and trusted friends who know the real me. Talking about things like this can feel nerve-wracking at first. But I promise you — the moment you do, someone will let out a huge sigh of relief and say: “Oh my god… I’m so glad you said that.” Because so many people are carrying the same things quietly. The biggest thing I’ve learned is this: coping isn’t about being fearless. It’s about meeting yourself with compassion while the fear is there.

Most people probably see me as a pretty confident person. And in many ways, I am. But one of my biggest anxiety triggers is driving — especially in the dark, in bad weather, or on icy roads. I have a very bad astigmatism in both eyes, so when cars approach, the lights completely blind me. There are moments where I genuinely have to slow right down or stop because I can’t see properly. Add snow or ice into the mix and, honestly, I feel physically sick. Days like today really test me. That short 15-minute drive along the Coa Road until I reached Garvary Church was nerve-wracking. The radio was completely off. My hands were tight on the steering wheel. And the only thing going through my head — over and over again — was “We’re ok. We’re doing ok.” On top of that, my car needs work done at the minute, which has definitely heightened the anxiety even more. What people don’t always see is that, at times, I suffer from crippling anxiety. Not the mild, passing kind — the kind that sits in your chest, makes your stomach turn, and convinces you that everything is unsafe. I work very hard on it. Not to make it disappear — but to stop it controlling my life. And I’m sharing this because I know I’m not the only one who: • looks confident on the outside • holds it together most of the time • but still has moments where fear takes over If this resonates with you, please know this: you are not weak, broken, or failing. Sometimes bravery isn’t being fearless. Sometimes it’s just getting in the car, turning the key, and whispering “we’re ok” until you arrive. And if you’re reading this and struggling in your own way — quietly, privately — you’re not alone. I see you 🤍 This is exactly why Radiance Quest exists. Not for perfection or positivity — but for honesty, tools, support, and learning how to live with our fears rather than letting them shrink our lives. If this helped even one person feel less alone today, then it was worth sharing. If anxiety is something you want ongoing support with, I’ll be creating deeper guided content and resources inside the Classroom for members who want to go further.