My biggest takeaway is I’ve been thinking about confidence all wrong. Here are the points that stuck out to me.
1. Defining words makes them easier to learn:
- I didn’t know confidence came from math. It makes the word seem less vague and scary, something I can actually learn and apply.
2. Confidence can be separate from ego:
- I always thought being confident meant being cocky, and since I didn’t want to be seen as cocky it meant I couldn’t be confident. Going forward, I see myself building real confidence, not the showy stuff that I thought was confidence before.
3. Confidence as a likelihood takes away the pressure of perfection
- Before I thought confident players were perfect. Black and white, absolute. Either you’re confident or not. Seeing it as a likelihood or being able to ask ‘how confident are you’ makes it feel like it is a skill to be improved rather than a trait to have or not have.
Question for myself: What can I now identify as micro-areas in my life to start improving my confidence? Not my whole game or personality, but just a piece of it to start.