This is something i am sure has been discussed in here but it's from grandma perspective. when i went to visit my kindergarten grand child last year, When we would pick her up from school i would try to ask her some different kind how was your day questions. like what was something funny that happened today. many times she would either shut down or be kinda rude, which hurt my feelings. so one day, i just didnt ask anything. but later while we were hanging out she told me off the wall things she did or noticed at school. I figured out her mind was just a bit stressed and if we waited a bit... she was much more willing to share. she just needed the calm for a bit first