If you come to a fork in the road, take it.” For dancers, the fork is rarely obvious. It shows up quietly in the studio. Technique or expression. Training or exploration. Staying clean or taking a risk. Trying to be everything or choosing something real. Most dancers are not stuck because they chose wrong. They are stuck because they never fully chose. Hesitation shows up as overthinking movement. Second guessing musicality. Trying to keep every version of yourself alive at once. That is when dancing starts to look busy instead of present. There is a line that matters here. “Keeping the other road with you keeps you from fully knowing the one you chose.” Your road is already showing itself. It has rhythm. It has story. It has feeling. But the other road is still being carried. The prove yourself version. The keep up version. The old identity that once kept you safe. When one road is chosen fully, something shifts. Movement deepens. Choices get clearer. Presence gets heavier. Not because the other road was wrong. Because it was finally released. Which fork do you feel most right now?

You’re on beat. You’re clean. So why doesn’t your movement hold attention? Because presence isn’t about hitting harder. It’s about knowing when to hold back. In this drill, you’ll feel the difference between letting a groove flow freely and choosing where to add resistance. When you control tension through your wrists and elbows, your movement creates suspense. And suspense is what makes people watch. Run the groove with no tension first. Then add resistance and feel how the moment suddenly sticks. That’s not speed or force. That’s control. Try it. Film it. Notice what changes when you stop pushing and start choosing. How did adding resistance feel in your body?

I want to keep these meetups consistent and valuable for you, and with my current work schedule shifting to daytime hours, I need to adjust when we meet. Because of that, tomorrow’s Lunch w Kiki (Friday, December 12 at 12 PM LA time) is cancelled. Going forward, I want to move our community meetups to the evenings, when I can show up more present and grounded. I am thinking of offering Monday, Wednesday, and Friday evenings, but I want your input so this works best for you too. Please vote in the poll below so we can lock in the next meeting time together. Which evening works best for you for Lunch w Kiki? Thank you for being flexible and for helping shape this space with me.