I often use this time to slow things down and notice what usually gets carried without much awareness. Not to analyze it. Not to fix it. Just to see it clearly. So here’s a question to sit with, at your own pace: Where in your life are you tolerating something that feels heavy — not because it’s aligned, but because it’s familiar? It might show up as pressure you’ve normalized. A way you move through your days on autopilot. A pattern that once helped you cope, but now quietly costs you energy or presence. There’s no need to force an answer. Sometimes the body knows before the mind catches up. If you feel called to share, you can — even if all you have is a sensation, a word, or a half-formed thought. Awareness doesn’t need to be loud to be meaningful. It just needs space.

I want to share something I see over and over again with men who come into this space. Most people think stress lives in the mind. Thoughts. Worries. Overthinking. But stress actually shows up in the body first. Before you ever realize you’re overwhelmed, your nervous system has already shifted. Your body has already decided whether it feels safe or not — and it does that without language. That’s why stress often shows up as: - tightness in your chest or jaw - shallow breathing - restlessness or agitation - fatigue that doesn’t make sense - or numbness, zoning out, feeling disconnected None of this means you’re failing at regulation. It means your body learned how to hold stress instead of releasing it. Biologically, stress is meant to move through us. Activate → respond → return to baseline. But when stress is constant, emotional, or unspoken, that cycle doesn’t complete. The body stays on alert — quietly. Here’s a small awareness practice I want you to try today or tomorrow: Take 60 seconds and ask yourself: “What am I feeling in my body right now — physically?” Not why. Not how do I fix it. Just where and what. Tension? Pressure? Heaviness? Nothing at all? All of it counts. This is how regulation actually begins — not by forcing calm, but by understanding what your body has been carrying for you. If you feel comfortable, drop a comment: 👉 Where do you tend to hold stress in your body?

This isn’t metaphorical. When your nervous system detects threat, stress, or overwhelm, your body prepares for action — tighten, brace, hold, contain. If that action doesn’t complete (movement, discharge, expression), the tension often stays. Not as a memory you think about, but as posture, tightness, restlessness, fatigue, or numbness. This is why some men feel “fine” mentally but can’t relax physically. So here’s the question — no analysis needed: When you slow down, where does your body still feel like it’s holding something? Neck. Jaw. Chest. Gut. Hips. Legs. Or nowhere at all. You don’t have to explain it. You don’t have to make meaning of it. Noticing is the work. Awareness in the body is where emotional regulation actually begins.

Take a moment and answer this only for yourself Right now, I’m mostly operating from: A) Tension B) Numbness C) Control D) Calm E) I’m not sure F) Something else No story required. No fixing required. Awareness comes before change — always. If you want to respond, one letter is enough but you can share more if you feel the need. If not, just notice what came up. That’s the work.