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I’m back in colorful Colorado! The conference was amazing! My greatest takeaway… successful leaders have so much great advice, following a leader can be overwhelming if you don’t know what advice to start with! Let me make this Sundays advice simple and short! Just like the phenomenon that occurs when we buy a new car and then notice it in every color everywhere we go as if everyone else bought the car because we did, in marriage - the traits we focus on in our husbands are the traits we’ll notice more of! Choose your focus wisely. It will determine your peace, happiness and joy!

In quantum physics, the “observer effect” refers to the phenomenon where the act of observing a quantum system inevitably alters its behavior, meaning that simply measuring or trying to observe a particle can change its state, making it impossible to know its exact properties without influencing it in the process; this is a key concept in quantum mechanics and is often illustrated by the double-slit experiment. Similarly, in relationships—particularly in marriage—our mere act of observing, interpreting, or reacting to our partner’s behavior can alter the dynamics of the relationship itself. Just as quantum particles exist in a range of possibilities until measured, our perceptions and expectations shape the reality of our interactions. When we assume fixed traits in our spouse, we inadvertently collapse their potential into a single, limiting narrative. However, if we approach them with curiosity, openness, and an awareness of the fluidity of human nature, we allow for a greater range of possibilities in our connection. Understanding this principle from quantum physics can transform a marriage: instead of reacting to a “fixed” version of our partner, we learn to appreciate the evolving, ever-changing nature of their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. By changing how we observe—choosing empathy over judgment, curiosity over certainty—we influence the relationship in a way that fosters growth, deeper understanding, and stronger emotional bonds. Just as in quantum mechanics, where observation shapes reality, the way we perceive and engage with our partner fundamentally shapes the reality of our marriage. So start incorporating the observer effect in your marriage today—use a video camera or even just an audio recorder to capture your interactions. Watch and listen back to see how your own presence, words, and reactions shape the dynamic. You’ll be surprised at how much awareness alone can change everything. Remember—marriage is an art… be creative! It’s a game a have fun! 🎨🎮