Oct '25 • General discussion
High Standards and Friend Groups
Here's the harsh but beautiful truth of being a coach and business owner.
Out of necessity, and also likely out of preference, you will have very high standards for yourself and how you spend your time.
Unfortunately, the very large majority of people are careless with their time, and they assume that you are the same. This means that they will spend your time as unproductively as they spend theirs, and see zero issue with it.
You, however, have lofty goals, and you know that they will take a tremendous amount of time. So, what happens if you continually spend your time with people that don't allow you to build yourself up? You gradually build more and more resentment for these time wasters.
But guess what? It's not on them to not waste your time. You can't set unusually high standards for everyone that you encounter and just expect them to rise to the occasion or not be offended. Instead, you have to make the hard but necessary choice to spend less time with those people.
This may seem rude, but in reality, this is practicing kindness to all parties involved.
-To yourself
-To the time wasters that you now will not build resentment for and ruin the mental peace of
-To those you provide for
-To those that you can serve best
Because here's the thing: If you don't continually level up, then those that you serve will also reach a stagnation point.
Growth requires discomfort. This is a truth you must lean into as someone who seeks to grow as a person and help others grow as well.
Your most valuable friends are also your busiest friends. They're the ones that "get it." They won't get offended when you don't immediately text back. They won't get offended when you can't say yes to every plan. And their phones also stay on Do Not Disturb mode when they are working.
And to be clear, those that are not hyper work-oriented or self-development obsessed are not less moral than you. They are just choosing a path that comes with different pros and cons. Will they have less of a large positive impact on the world? Yes, likely. But as long as the impact, of whatever size, is positive, that is okay. Not everyone is made to put themselves through extreme discomfort for an extremely large impact.
Everyone's ultimate potential and everyone's willingness to put themselves through pain for the purposes of growth exists across a spectrum. The only issues are when people are delusional about the level of pain they must willingly put themselves through to reach the next level, or when they judge others who wish to live life with more/less impact than them.
And what is the only real hack to having more growth with less pain? Well, congrats! It's what you did by joining this group. It's both:
1:Learning from a mentor that is further along than you in a similar journey. You pay with money to save time (and money) on not making the mistakes they did, and instead making the moves they learned DO work.
2: Surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals that will hold each other accountable to becoming their best selves.
With this in mind, let's all unapologetically lock in to build ourselves up, build our clients up, build each other in this community up, and celebrate as we earn some W's.
God Bless, and Stay Growing and Grateful
-Coach Jensen
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High Standards and Friend Groups
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