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How the Nervous System Breaks Your Habits
If you’ve ever tried to build a habit and thought,
“Why can’t I just stick to this?”
this might help.
For a long time, I thought my problem was willpower.
Or motivation.
Or discipline.
But what I’ve learned is that a lot of “failed habits” aren’t about mindset at all.
They’re about the nervous system.
When your nervous system feels under pressure, unsafe, overwhelmed, or stretched too thin, it doesn’t care about your good intentions.
It cares about survival.
So even if you want to eat well, move your body, rest more, show up consistently…
your system might be quietly pulling you back to what feels familiar and safe.
Not because it’s best for you.
But because it’s known.
That’s why habits often fall apart when:
- you’re stressed
- you’re tired
- you’re emotionally overloaded
- you’re trying to do too much at once
Your body goes into protection mode.
And protection always beats plans.
I see this in myself all the time.
When I’m regulated and steady, habits feel simple.
When I’m dysregulated, everything feels harder and I start asking myself what’s wrong with me.
Nothing is wrong.
My system just needs support before it can change.
This is why pushing harder usually backfires.
And why being kind to yourself actually helps habits stick.
Small changes.
Low pressure.
Safety first.
Not forcing.
Not shaming.
Not trying to overhaul your life when your system is already stretched.
If you’ve been stuck in the stop–start cycle, it doesn’t mean you lack commitment.
It usually means your nervous system hasn’t felt safe enough to stay consistent.
And that’s something you can work with, gently.
What habit keeps falling apart when you’re stressed?
I share a lot of this kind of nervous-system-aware support inside The Sacred Pause. (I have just launched a course in there that will help with this).
If this spoke to you, you’re very welcome to join us.
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