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Staying Silent On Group Calls Is The Easiest Way To Lose
I’ve seen so many people hop on group calls who stay quiet the entire time. “Oh, but I’m absorbing the information.” That’s the excuse they give. But deep down they don’t feel good enough to speak up… Especially when there’s someone with a higher status than them. They act like side characters you see in movies who’re forgotten right after the movie ends… And they’re literally closing the door that might contain all the things you want. And this has been going on for quite a lot of time for them. WITHOUT any change. This quote is true: Closed mouths don’t get fed. No wonder their business isn’t growing at the rate at which it should grow. So, what’s the solution for this? It’s a simple one. Speak up. Speak up even if it feels cringe. Speak up even if your heart starts pounding & your body starts to shake. Speak up even if your inner critic mocks you to the point where you can’t take it anymore. Speak up and get it done with. You’ll be surprised how difficult your mind made it to be when you held it back. “Oh, but I’m quietly absorbing the information.” Yes, you have to absorb all the information & even take notes. But not asking questions that might change your entire life…isn’t a smart move. All the millionaires & successful people have once been where you are right now. But the only difference was that they willingly stomped on that sneaky thing called ego. And they were willing to ask the questions that ended up changing their lives. Every student who grew up to be an influential mentor was a product of their questions. That's the secret to speedrunning your progress. And potentially speedrunning your bank account.
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If your progress is slower than it used to be, do this
How much are you gonna run? From yourself. From your own words. From your commitments. You say you’ll do one thing… And instead of actually doing that very thing you promised to yourself… You see a notification, an email, a message from your friend, or simply another short-form content… And lo and behold, you’ve forgotten your commitments. And you lose yourself. Not only that, but you also lose the self-confidence that is needed to succeed in any task. You then sleep with immense pain & regret. And the guilty feeling eats you up. “I wish I hadn’t wasted time today.” “I wish I hadn’t put off that task that I wanted to do for the longest time.” “I wish I actually did something that made me proud instead of just doing random tasks.” But even with all of this misery…the cycle just repeats from the next day. As if it’s a never-ending loop. This is the trap I was stuck in for most of my life. I tried so many things to get out of it, but nothing seemed to work. No amount of journaling helped. Affirmations didn’t feel true at that time. Feeling sorry for myself didn’t help. Being angry at myself didn’t help either. Heck, even using those terrible feelings as a fuel didn’t work for me. Then I came up with the Ultimate Reset. And this…worked like a charm. And no, I’m not selling you any program called the Ultimate Reset. It’s just a method you can use for free when you’re stuck in a rut. In simpler words, start from zero. Let me explain… See, we’re fixated on completing a 15-item to-do list. And some of us are used to tackling multiple tasks/projects in a single day. But when you’ve spiralled into distractions and start to break one promise after the other… Your brain loses the ability to do any task…let alone finish 15 tasks. So what do you do instead? You simply put your ego to the side… And forget about all the progress you had made in the past. Even if you had a jam-packed routine and worked like a robot just a month ago. It doesn’t matter. Literally, start from zero.
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If your progress is slower than it used to be, do this
How I finish 3hrs of work in <1hr
I do my homework outside in freezing cold weather. No, I'm not joking. So I've got these biology reading guides for class. Basically just a bunch of questions I have to answer from the textbook. Normally, this would take me like 3 hours. Maybe more if I'm distracted. But I found this weird strategy that lets me finish it in an hour. Here's what I do: I grab my laptop, walk outside to my backyard, and sit there in the freezing cold. Like, winter evening freezing. The kind where your feet go numb and you want to cry. And I just... work. My feet are ice. My fingers barely move. Every part of me is screaming to go back inside, wrap myself in a blanket, and give up. But I don't. I sit there and push through. And here's why this works: Cold exposure kills distractions. When you're freezing, your brain stops thinking about everything else. It can't afford to. You might've noticed this in cold showers. The second that water hits you, your thoughts just... vanish. Your brain goes quiet. That's exactly what happens when I sit outside in the cold. No thoughts about Minecraft. No urge to scroll TikTok. No distractions at all. Just me and the work in front of me. And because of that? I fly through it. 3 hours of work done in 1 hour. Every time. Is it uncomfortable? Hell yeah. But that's the point. When you make yourself uncomfortable, you eliminate the space for distractions to even exist. Your brain has one job: survive. And in that moment, finishing the work is survival. So if you're stuck procrastinating on something, try this. Go outside. Let yourself freeze. And watch how fast you work. Cold kills distractions. Use it.
Curing procrastination is so d*mn simple
Newton's second law solved my entire procrastination problem. Let me explain. So I'm sitting at my desk, camera set up, ready to record a video. And I don't want to do it. Like, at all. I'm tired. My brain's foggy. I'm telling myself, "I can just push this to tomorrow." But then I just... hit record. And I start talking. At first, it's shit. My words are stumbling over each other. I'm saying random stuff. I sound like an idiot. But I keep going. And then, 10 minutes in, I pause the recording. And I realize something: I'm not tired anymore. I'm not resisting. I'm actually... enjoying this. I had entered a flow state without even noticing. And that's when it clicked. ▶ Newton's second law: An object in motion stays in motion unless acted on by an external force. The reason you procrastinate isn't because the task is hard. It's because you're not even moving yet. You're stuck. At rest. And objects at rest stay at rest unless acted on by some other force. So what's the solution? Simple. Get in motion. But here's the trick — you don't need some huge push. You don't need to psych yourself up or wait for motivation. You just need a tiny push... something that I call the minimum viable action (MVA). Let's say you have to write an essay. Don't write the essay. Instead, just type your name at the top of the page. Got 20 math problems to finish? Don't solve them. Just write down the formula you'll need to use. That's it. Because once you do that one tiny thing, the ball starts rolling. And once it's rolling? It just keeps on going, bro. That's the beauty of it. Starting is the hardest part. But once you're in it, it's so easy to keep going. So next time you're procrastinating, don't think about the whole task. Just do the smallest possible action. Open the doc. Write one sentence. Solve one problem. Get the ball rolling. Physics doesn't lie, bro.
How to stay consistent
You keep falling off because you still see yourself as lazy. Let me explain. Let's say you're life is like a rubber band. Imagine your self-image is at Point A. Let's say you see yourself as unproductive. A procrastinator. A doom scroller. Now, you start building good habits. You wake up early. You study. You lock in. That's like pulling the rubber band tighter and tighter (further away from Point A, which is your self-image). As you pull further (doing better habits with the same self-image), the rubber band gets tigher... And boom, it snaps back. Because deep down, you still see yourself as that lazy person. Your habits improved, sure. But your identity didn't. And your identity always wins. You can only stretch so far before the rubber band pulls you right back to where you think you belong. That's why you fall off. That's why consistency feels impossible. Not because you're weak. But because you're fighting against your own self-image. So here's the fix: Move the rubber band. Stop seeing yourself as the unproductive person trying to be better. Start seeing yourself as a productive person who occasionally slips up. Because when you do that? EVERYTHING changes. Now, when you fall off — when you skip a day, when you doom scroll, when you mess up — the rubber band snaps you BACK to being PRODUCTIVE. Because that's just who you are now. You're not trying to become disciplined. You're just a disciplined guy. You're not trying to be a hard worker. You just ARE a hard worker. And when you slip? You get right back up. Because that's what a disciplined man would do. So stop trying to build better habits while still seeing yourself as the person who can't stick to them. Change the identity first. The habits will follow.
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