My partner and I need help reconnecting. How do we spice up dating again?

https://www.brainzmagazine.com/post/how-to-master-your-breath-to-improve-connection-in-your-relationship Dive into the article above to master the art of connective breathwork. For those in my advanced course in this community, you will use this during the Kareeza Tantric Technique lesson! 😮‍💨 HOW Core Intimate Energy Connects to a Mindful Lifestyle: Intimate energy in a romantic relationship isn’t created during big moments—it’s shaped by how partners move through everyday life. Your core relational energy type (Synergy, Stream, Surge, Sponge, Sympathy, or Self-Generating) reflects how you give, receive, and circulate emotional and physical energy with your partner. Mindfulness, when practiced as a lifestyle, becomes the steady influence that shapes this energetic pattern. Here’s where they overlap: 1. Mindfulness calms the nervous system, which allows intimacy to flow.When partners live mindfully—pausing, breathing, noticing their internal state—they become more predictable and emotionally steady. This stability is what allows relational energy to move freely instead of getting blocked by anxiety, reactivity, or old patterns. 2. Mindfulness brings partners back into the present moment—where real intimacy happens.Most energy disruptions come from living in the past (old hurts) or future (fear, expectation). Mindfulness brings attention back to right now, where connection, repair, and attunement are possible. 3. Mindfulness turns intimacy into a lifestyle, not a single act.Deep connection is built through small, mindful choices repeated over time:• Softening your tone before speaking• Pausing before reacting• Reaching for your partner with intention• Holding eye contact just a bit longer• Choosing curiosity instead of assumption These small moments shape the energetic field between partners. They make the relationship feel safe, warm, and responsive—without forcing intimacy.

https://www.brainzmagazine.com/post/19-healthy-reasons-to-choose-sex-with-a-partner-or-self Share yours! How do you filter out healthy rom unhealthy reasons? If you are seeking sex as a means to "get back to baseline" (to regulate an anxious body, to quell insecurity in the relationship, to validate your worth as a person or a partner) I strongly empower you to first try to meet these needs for stability and safety using other strategies FIRST, and then initiating sex with your partner. This way, we are not accidentally creating a dependency on sex to maintain our "normal" state. That dependency will put you into a place of powerlessness (low energy) and place a lot of pressure on your partner to accommodate at times when they may not be interested (negative energy). Practice communicating your reasons for sex in 1 short sentence. Think of a newspaper headliner: "Are you interested in sex tonight? I'm feeling a lot of energy and this could be a fun way for us to express it." You and your partner can only align sexually when you know the expectations that you are each carrying into the sensual experience. Comment if you have questions, my loves! You got this. - Dr. B * This is community is a safe place without judgement. Please ensure that if you are responding to someone else's comment it is supportive and /or positive!