26d • Relationships
The Role No One Talks About in Conflict
Have you ever noticed how in conflict, one person often has to become “the adult”? 🤍
The calmer one.The more regulated one.The one who can still pause when emotions are running high.
Here’s something very important I’ve learned through years of relationship work:
💛 Healthy relationships are never perfectly equal in every moment.
At different times, one person has more:
🌿 regulation
🌿 clarity
🌿 emotional capacity
🌿 responsibility
This is called asymmetry — and emotional maturity means being willing to lead with care when you have more capacity.
But here’s the part many people misunderstand:
🫂 Being the more emotionally responsible one does NOT mean tolerating harm.
It doesn’t mean staying while being lashed out at.It doesn’t mean explaining while being attacked.It doesn’t mean abandoning yourself to keep the peace.
Sometimes emotional leadership sounds very simple:
“Now isn’t a good time to talk. Let’s take some space and come back later.”
And then… you actually step away.
Not as punishment.
Not as withdrawal.
But as protection.
Because one of the deepest principles of conscious relating is this:
🌱 Emotional safety comes before finishing the argument.
Before winning.
Before proving.
Before being right.
✨ Reflection question for you:
Where in your life are you being invited to protect your nervous system instead of proving your point?
With warmth,
Owen Fox — From Struggles to Thriving Love 🤍
💛 A gentle note from me:
If this teaching resonates and you feel ready for deeper guidance, I offer more advanced support inside my Thriving Love Circle — a space for people who want to grow real emotional maturity, conscious communication, and lasting relational safety together.
And for those walking through something tender or complex, I also offer 1-to-1 mentoring and couples support in a trauma-informed, heart-centered way.
With sunshine and love,
Owen 🌞
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