GALUK - Useful Questions to answer in writing

Deborah Galuk

Oct 14 • General discussion

Useful Questions to answer in writing

WHO do you help?

Women 45+ (50+) in business who want to upgrade their life/business

Corporate, ex-corporate, solo business owners, service based business owners, where THEY are the business

WHAT is their most painful problem?

They feel like they don’t have control over their life

They KNOW they are on the cusp of a new chapter yet they are not able to get traction to get going or sustain actions/momentum.

Feel STUCK and in their own way - unable to move forward or make meaningful progress in their life

They have ideas but don’t act on them or are not successful in implementing/making progress.

They have significant inner conflict about taking the actions; they don’t feel resourceful; their sense of self has eroded; their decisiveness wavers

They don’t see a way out, a way forward

They are despondent - “is this it? How come i can’t figure this out? I don’t WANT to be done, I’ve got more to live, to give -

The expanded direction competes with other “life” events /transitions, which require emotional energy and time

NOT making progress and emotional turmoil that accompanies it

HOW does that problem show up for them? (know what it is but not doing it -

Wheel spinning

Continue to have a number of starts and stops and redirects, only to circle back and repeat it - no firm decision and then action to implement.

“Analysis paralysis” -

Feel emotional ups and downs - exaggerated when they see the “on hold” nature of their life

Days into weeks and months, and still nothing to show for their “dreams” - and because of this, they are starting to waiver and wobble about what they think is possible for them

They see OTHERS who are dramatically less qualified than they are - visible on the social media platforms - getting the deals, getting the attention - and yet they KNOW they are sitting on a gold mine of ideas, of vision, of energy

They are KNOW its time to shift gears away from their current position - but feel frozen because don’t know the next move. Justify and excuse their inaction because their comfort and familiarity is all in the past - yet

They have the financial piece figured out - their ambition and efforts have served them well. AND there are gaps in other pieces in their life - relationships and health.

HOW does that FEEL for them?

Internal RESTLESSness with “this isn’t it!”

Lack of vitality, energy and fulfillment/satisfaction - discontent

Internal conflict and friction

Constant internal swirl that distracts from the present moment - doesn’t leave you alone

From putting on a fake smile to blah and distractions to low moods

WHAT is the EXISTING SYSTEM? (What do most people with this problem do?)

Ignore it for a while - then start looking on the internet for sparks of inspiration;

talking to close girlfriends - only a little because then you’re being a burden

Seek out therapy or counseling or coaching

Distract yourself with external things and events to “change things up” - travel; take a new class;

WHAT DO MOST PEOPLE IN MY KIND OF BUSINESS PROPOSE AS SOLUTION?

General solutions: business goal and growth programs; career exploration workshops

General life coaching groups

Accountability focused coaching

WHAT IS THE FAILURE POINT for each of these usual suspects?

The transformation doesn’t actually transform -

Doesn’t support her for the duration to complete

Don’t address the identity, self-concept that is at the root of all

Doesn’t address the inner barriers that were conditioned into her that has been the source of self-imposed constraints and how to move through and into a new identity

Doesn’t embody the new identity into the DOING aspects -

- stops at the pretty words, doesn’t provide the practical path doesn’t operationalize it in incremental steps

Too superficial - may address symptoms, not core

Need a specific growth story she can fully buy into and own (not just pretty words)

Don’t address the ROLE she has assumed - the identity embodiment - and how to actually and practically operationalize the steps to become and do to have

WHAT IS THE WHAT IF THAT provides a breakthrough?

WHAT IF we could imagine ourselves as if we were observing our life in a movie, or onstage? What if we could imagine ourselves as getting to choose our thoughts, emotions, actions?

WHAT IF we could imagine our life if we had been raised as a man - what

What if your future was rich and full of adventure and vitality?

What if everything was setting you up perfectly?

What if there was a growth pathway that would actually lead to your destiny?

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