Oct '25 • 🍱 General discussion
How to Influence Stakeholders
The shift from order-taker to influencer I see most senior PMs miss is this:
🤔 They think influence means convincing. It actually means alignment through their language, not yours.
🏎️ Here's a quick pattern I encourage: The 3-Question Stakeholder Map
Before any strategic conversation, answer these for each key stakeholder:
1. What do they optimize for? (their success metric, not yours) 📈
2. What evidence convinces them? (data, user stories, peer validation, etc.) 🔎
3. What's their skepticism rooted in? (risk, resource constraints, past failures) 🤨
Quick example:
🤨 Skeptical Engineer archetype:
- Optimizes for: Technical elegance + avoiding rework
- Convinced by: Technical approach that reduces future debt
- Skepticism: "PM doesn't understand the technical complexity"
Your reframe:
Instead of "We need to ship feature X" → "I'm thinking we tackle X now because it sets up the architecture for Y and Z later. Want to sketch out an approach that doesn't create debt?"
😃 You just turned a skeptic into a collaborator.
🪄 The trick isn't having all the answers. It's knowing how to surface the right questions that get each archetype leaning in.
Curious if this lands? Happy to riff more on the specific stakeholders you're navigating.
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