.... I would simply start doing special events. I would avoid doing weekly events or biweekly,.... even worse. I totally see the advantage in doing larger, more unique events where you collaborate and plan and make a special Night Out. , because people are looking for not just a regular get-together! They look for something fun they can plan for a few weeks out, and that's exactly what I did for years and years when when I did my parties in San Francisco. The bigger parties were always the best ones. They were the ones where the energy was on FIRE!!!, ....like a good friend of mine used to refer to them as. And I always had multiple rooms with different type of music and entertainment. Very often, it was a theme, and that's actually a big point, getting people to join in on a theme, something that they all can feel like they belong to in a group or what have you. A simple example could be White Nights, where we celebrated the summer solstice, the lightest day of the year, the 21st of June. You can flip that around and do it on the 21st of December, where you have the darkest night. My FAVE events were Events like Halloween, Fourth of July, Beach Parties,....Thanksgiving, holiday parties, taking people to Concerts where we would set up a Pre Party with food and drinks... rent Theme Busess, like The Mexican bus... the list goes one etc. etc. If you have any questions and wonder how I pulled it all off and how I had the best crowd in San Francisco, let me know. Let's set a time up to talk. I am All ears.

You know who you are. You've got a phone full of contacts. Real ones! People who like you, trust you, show up when you show up. You've got an idea bouncing around in your head that won't go away. Maybe it's a themed birthday party for 60 people. Maybe it's a rooftop thing this summer. Maybe it's something you've been thinking about for two years now. And yet. Nothing. You're still sitting on the fence, waiting for the perfect moment that is never going to arrive. Waiting until you have more time, more money, more certainty. Meanwhile, your contacts are out there going to someone else's mediocre event wishing someone would create something better. That someone is you. And you already know it. Two quotes have been living rent-free in my head for years. Einstein said it first: "Nothing happens until something moves." And Ralph Waldo Emerson said the other half: "Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm." Read those AGAIN... twice. Slowly. Not "nothing works until you have a perfect plan." Not "nothing starts until the money is in the bank." Nothing happens until SOMETHING MOVES. Any movement. One step. One decision. One phone call. That's all it takes to go from sitting still to suddenly being in motion. The fence you're on? It's not comfortable. You're not resting there. You're grinding against it every single day you don't act on what you already know you should do. I've been doing this for 22 years. I built a 20,000-person community starting with 50 people and a perforated business card. No internet in the beginning, no social media, no ads. Here's what I know: the first event is never perfect. Mine wasn't. But it moved. And that was all it needed to do. Here's the other thing I know. The people sitting in your phone right now, the ones who would show up if you just asked them, the ones who keep saying "we should do something sometime" .... those are your first bus. You don't need 400 people. You need the right 20 people at the right party, and everything else follows from that. One bus before eight buses.