Lately I have been working with my stepson using some modality work to improve his communication skills. So far it has been working, but I am amazed at how easy it is to get into structure with him and his brother compared to working with adults. Has anybody else who has worked with adolescents found the same pattern? I do not want to draw a conclusion from a sample size of two. It seems like with adults, not only do they get pulled into content, but there is also a hesitance to say what is really going on in their mind. And when they do, they preface it with things like "this might sound weird" or "you might think I am crazy." At this point, when I hear phrases like that, I know I am doing my job.

I believe some people had a problem accessing todays NLP Surgery, so I ran it again and recorded the session for you. This weeks question came in from Sarah asking about NLPs Fast Phobia Model. Please also read pages 184 to 185 of Toby and Kates book - 'The NLP Practitioner', before practicing this technique and have a read of the attached PDF for more information. You can also see Toby demonstrate The Fast Phobia Model in front of a live audience many years ago. The technique is the same as is the outcome: The client successfully releases the phobia. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qgwgLI2Didc Please post your questions here for next weeks NLP Surgery which will go live from The Lake District where some of us are meeting up for a walk and talk (Please see separate post if you want to join us).

Hi everyone, I want to get anybody's opinion on reimprinting, matrix reimprinting, and projective identification. I was discussing with another practitioner who does matrix reimprinting, which I had never heard of before. He tried to explain it to me but honestly I didn't fully understand his explanation, so I'm curious if anyone can shed some light on what it actually is. I know there are different forms of reimprinting, but I'm not clear on how matrix reimprinting fits in or how it differs from what I already do. In my experience working with clients, if a parts integration is not taking, I typically do a reimprint, and that does hold and has had lasting effects. However, I love adding more tools to my toolbox, and I'm wondering: does projective identification typically lead to a reimprint, or does it just call for parts work? And what is the connection between projective identification, standard reimprinting, and matrix reimprinting?

Before I roll out my newly updated public speaking course, I’d love to know if it’s something you’d be interested in. Below you’ll find the key details, dates, and pricing. Have a quick read and, if it speaks to you, either hit the thumbs-up on this post or drop a comment to let me know you’re interested. Thanks in advance for your feedback and support. SpeakUp: Public Speaking & Speaker Trainer Certification Programme A six-day immersive experience designed to take you from crafting powerful keynote presentations to delivering them on stage — and ultimately training others to do the same. Set in either London or Lockerbie, Scotland (near Carlisle), this programme blends practical speaking skills, business strategy, and real-world performance. Programme Overview Dates & Times - Public Speaking Intensive: Wednesday 7th – Friday 9th October 26 - Trainer Certification: Friday 9th – Sunday 11th October 26 - Daily schedule: 10:00 AM – 3:00 PM - Daily independent work: 2 hours (guided homework and preparation) Course 1: Public Speaking Intensive (3 Days): Designed to help you build, structure, and deliver a compelling keynote presentation with confidence and clarity. Day 1 – Wednesday 7th October The Public Speaker’s Model & System - The SpeakUp framework for impactful presentations - Structuring a keynote from idea to delivery - Audience psychology and message clarity - Crafting your core message and narrative arc Day 2 – Thursday 8th October Keynote Scripting & Writing - Storytelling techniques for engagement - Writing for spoken delivery vs written content - Emotional pacing and persuasive language - Refining your keynote script Day 3 – Friday 9th October Presentation Day - Deliver your keynote live - Structured feedback and coaching - Performance refinement and confidence building Course 2: Public Speaking Trainer Certification (3 Days): For those ready to turn speaking into a business and train others. Day 4 – Friday 9th October (Afternoon Transition)