Almost Rich: Two Family Stories
A student of mine, Stefania*, surprised me with the story of her family lineage this week. We had been talking about her hometown, the birthplace of a famous Amaretto brand, when she revealed that the brand in question was actually founded by her family. “You must be rich then?” I joked. She gave a little wry smile before lamenting that her side of the family had sold their share of the company a long time ago. Long before the real money was made. This family connection to the company is now so weak that they once turned down her job application there without so much as an interview. Remarkably, my brother-in-law has almost the exact same story. In his case, his family line sold their share of a now internationally famous honey brand. To an observer from the UK, my brother-in-law would instantly be labelled as ‘posh’ – a term loaded with connotations of class and generational wealth. His pronunciation, vocabulary choices, and even his dress sense act as clues to his background. Stefania would never describe herself as one of ‘them’, but she also occasionally mixes with Italy’s ‘posh’ society. As she tells me in our conversations, the norms of behaviour and morality don’t seem to apply in quite the same way for many of these ultra-wealthy individuals. The thing that impresses me with both Stefania and my brother-in-law is that they are both such down-to-earth, hard-working, likeable people who have cut their own paths in life. It’s also a pleasure to spend time in their company. But the question I ask myself is this: would they be such good people if they had inherited family wealth? I really don’t know the answer. *Name changed to protect identity.