I’m back… · MasterGrief

I’m back…

Hi all-

As many of you know Inhabe been dealing with my own loss of a friend … but I’m back and excited for my support group this morning.

After reading the posts from the last week, I really need to share this.

Grief is painful. There’s no way around that.

But I want to say something gently and honestly.

At some point… there’s a line.

And if we don’t pay attention, grief can start to take more from us than the loss itself did.

Our minds are built to try to make sense of something that doesn’t make sense. So we think about it over and over. We replay. We question. We try to find meaning. And without realizing it, we start building our whole world around the loss.

That’s the part that keeps people stuck.

It’s not the grief itself.

It’s the way we’re holding it. The way we’re thinking about it every day.

And I’m not saying this to push you or rush you.

I’m saying it because I’ve seen what happens when grief quietly becomes someone’s identity.

That’s a heavy bill to pay later.

You’re allowed to hurt.

You’re allowed to miss them.

You’re allowed to have moments where it all feels like too much.

But you’re also allowed to decide that this is not who you are.

That grief is something you are moving through, not something you are becoming.

If you’ve been feeling stuck or like you’ve been sitting in the same place for a while, just know there are more intentional spaces opening up inside this community.

More focused conversations. More specific topics. A chance to go a little deeper if and when you’re ready for that kind of support.

I’m also going to be shifting my support groups to focus much more on the personal growth side of grief. The part where you actually start creating change, not just talking about the pain.

If you’re truly at a place where you don’t want to keep feeling like this… and you’re ready for a real breakthrough in your grief… I strongly suggest you join us in those rooms as a true member of this space.

That’s where we do the deeper work.

Come join us.

You don’t have to live like this… or by yourself. And you don’t have to lose yourself in it either.

Send me a message here if you don’t know how to join the groups and want to…

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