Did you know that praying together lessens your chance of divorce to .0126%?! That's less than a 1% chance just because you pray together! Why is this not a golden rule in every marriage? Because it requires vulnerability. People don't want to "sound stupid" or be that vulnerable with their partner. They feel super self-conscious and when I hear this, I'm always floored. You'll fart in front of your partner, get completely naked, exchange bodily fluids but praying is what gets you? Our insecurities reveal where we need the most work in our lives. If we are embarrassed in an area, that's the area we know we need more intention and work around but aren't willing to put it in. So for your prayer life, how much time are you spending learning how to pray more powerful prayers? How much time are you in the word every day? How much time are you focusing on repentance and making your relationship with God a discipline rather than an after-thought? Does God get your best or your leftovers? It's no surprise that this is a direct correlation to your marriage. Does your spouse get your best or your leftovers? How much time are you putting into learning how to be a better spouse, have a better marriage, or become a better version of yourself to bring to the marriage? Is your marriage a priority? Something you put daily time, energy, effort and intention into or an after-thought? How often do you pray about a circumstance before taking it to your spouse or berating them about it because they didn't do what you wanted? How often do you pray before you panic or try to take things into your own hands? If you're feeling convicted right now, even just a little bit, this message is for you. I'm telling you, the God you serve can change any circumstance, person, situation, or problem. But you have to ask. Matthew 18:20 says for where two or three are gathered together in my name, I am there among them. He can change what's happening. When you ask together, your prayer is more powerful and He is right there beside you the whole way.

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So sorry guys! We were at a volleyball tournament all day yesterday and with no service in the facility and being beat when we got home, I didn't get Day 10 up until today. However, days 10 & 11 are up in the classroom and ready for you to view and reflect on. Here's the link for day 11- https://www.skool.com/married-connected-4920/classroom/57650aa0?md=3e1e306527b14c4fb8b04dd844f12a60 How are you liking the challenge so far? Are there any topics you're hoping for more tools around? Have you noticed more closeness with you and your partner? Chime in below and let me know!

So often when couples come to me, they are having a lot of conflict. When we break it down though, they aren't arguing about the same things. The problem is never the problem. The problem is deeper than the problem and most of the time, that deeper problem comes down to what things mean. So when you're arguing about money, it's not actually about money. It's about freedom, power, respect, or safety. When you're arguing about how they didn't send a text, it's not about the text. It's about consideration and respect. I've developed a list of words that couples rarely break down and talk about before they are married. What do these words mean to you? What do they look like or sound like? What about in different circumstances? Does the meaning change depending on the situation? Today's challenge is going to take you a few days or maybe even a couple of weeks to get through but I want you to go through these words and define them together with your partner. This tool is usually given to clients in their second session with me and I'll tell you this- when couples are still arguing in session 10, I will ask them if they did this exercise and 10/10 times they say no. If they HAVE done this exercise and done it thoroughly, the arguing stops or at the very least, vastly decreases! Don't try to convince them why they're wrong and you're right. Don't try to create an argument out of it. That's ego remember! No, instead, I just want you to listen to understand them. Listen to really see how their mind works and accept it as it is. If you have wildly different viewpoints, you may have just figured out the source of all your arguments but instead of bickering about it, I want you to see if you can mesh the two ideas together to create something new that works for both of you and your family. Also, don't forget that I have only TWO open spots for couples coaching and two open spots for individual coaching as well. Send me an email at coaching@recognizingpotential.com for more info on those. These are the types of tools you'll get in every single session when you work with me!