The past 3 weeks I have been privileged to help my ex husband. We have been separated & divorced longer than we were together.
16yrs separated. Together for 14.
He has an infection on the inside of his ankle which wasn't detected until 10 days after it started.
I've been able to help him heal by visiting his cat twice daily while he was in the hospital.
Visiting him twice daily upon being released to ensure he wasn't walking on it to allow rest & his body heal.
Asking to advocate for him with the home care nurses, as he wasn't able to physically go to them last Saturday for a bandage change.
For almost 2yrs I have thought I was implementing a boundary, I was really preventing friendship.
He has only wanted to be my friend. This experience has shown me I was blocking his friendship. Being of service to him and his cat showed me how much his friendship & presence in my life means to me.
I am grateful and deeply appreciate that this opportunity was given to me.