"Going cold when I want connection - how do I handle rejection? It reinforces that I do need to create space for myself when I am rejected. How can I ask for more affection when he is not affectionate? Doing it all myself - I have stood back to allow him to do things. When he doesn't (especially with the kids) I will step in. How can I leave it? It feels like a punishment to me even though he is oblivious."