Still working on this…… This author captured it well for me.

You forgive them by allowing yourself to feel everything—every wave of pain, every tear, every moment of disbelief. Healing doesn’t come swiftly; it doesn’t arrive like a sudden sunrise. It creeps in slowly, like the soft glow of twilight. One moment, you’ll feel like you’ve made progress, and the next, you’re falling back into the ache. And that’s okay. Forgiveness isn’t linear—it’s messy, unpredictable, and deeply human.

You forgive them by choosing you. By taking the love you once gave so freely to them and pouring it back into yourself. Unplug from their world. Unfollow their shadows. Surround yourself with people who remind you of your worth—friends who make you laugh so hard it feels like your heart might burst from joy instead of pain. Let the things you love become your safe haven. Revisit the books that feel like home, walk under the stars, and remember that life holds more beauty than you can see right now.

You forgive them by stepping away—not just physically, but emotionally. Leave behind the questions that will never have satisfying answers. Stop replaying the “what ifs” and “whys” in your mind. The pain may beg for your attention, but you have to let it go, like a balloon slipping from your hand. Watch it drift away, becoming smaller and smaller until it’s no longer yours to hold.

You forgive them by accepting the truth of what happened. Not because it was okay, not because it hurt any less, but because clinging to the past won’t change it. Acceptance doesn’t mean approval. It doesn’t erase the scars or absolve them of responsibility. It simply means you’ve chosen to stop reliving the moment they broke you. Acceptance is the first step to freedom.

You forgive them by reclaiming your story. They may have written a painful chapter, but your life is so much bigger than that one page. There’s a whole world waiting for you—people to meet, places to explore, dreams to chase. Forgiveness is not about excusing them; it’s about releasing yourself. It’s about refusing to let the person who broke your heart have the power to keep you broken.

Because you are more than the pain they caused. You are healing, growing, and finding your way back to yourself. And that is the most beautiful kind of forgiveness. 🦋🧘‍♂️☘️ #fblifestyle

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