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Danielle’s Post

@Danielle Armstrong

posted this in the intro section under comments yesterday and I thought it deserved more attention!

Read Danni’s story below! —>

Heyyy Everyone,

I am slightly late to the party, moving into a brand new year the big 2026, I wanted to reach out and connect with you all!

My name is Danni and I am also from Birmingham but I am currently living in Queensland Australia.

Over the past couple of years I have suffered from some big life changes including changes and experiences that have been negative leading to deep depression, loss, loneliness, feelings of embarrassment and confusion and also some big positives I have grown into and be grateful to have learnt a lot of positive lessons including building and maintaining a positive mindset and understanding and embracing independence, resilience and strength!

Moving to a new country away from all of my family and support system was soo difficult, but doing this with an abusive, narsasistic partner after he encouraged recycled bullying was even harder. Making the decision to leave this partner and continue on my own in Australia was one of the hardest, most powerful and best decisions I ever made! It just took me time to see it for what it was and to find gratitude and confidence in following my gut and trusting in my decision's.

A little higher up I wrote recycled bullying and I just want to explain that is a phrase I made up so I could understand what was happening to me. A long experience cut short I was committed to a partner that gave me only one option to attend two weddings with all the people who bullied me at school in person and on social media. By one option I mean if you don’t come it will make things hard for me or if you don’t come I will be on my own that’s not right. No level of support, understanding or care was presented to me only the option that my whole 3 year relationship and engagement would break down and be over if I didn’t face my biggest fear and one big trauma of facing all those people who have no idea changed my whole life from the day they bullied me which followed me into every experience after, until I hit 30 and even now at times I am struck by anxiety and fear. The sadness of it all I used as much strength and techniques I could to try my hardest to get through both weddings and at both the same people, isolated and bullied me even as adults only now this was harder because we are 29 year old adults and some had their own children! I couldn’t understand how it was possible to bully someone in school and then do the exact same after years of growing into an adult. I couldn’t believe it was possible to not just be treated and accepted as the adult I arrived to the wedding as that day. I was shocked at how after over 10years these people could continue to treat others the same way.

The spiral of depression and urges to end it all were so powerful and strong I only have my family to thank for saving me!

The journey to where I am now has been hard and at times is still hard, it has incurred a lot of feelings, emotions, sadness, loneliness, embarrassment, loss of friendships, partners, experiences, alcohol abuse all then moving moving towards positive changes, mindset changes, gratitudes, self worth and I still have more to achieve.

I have always felt there is no justice for bullying and for me I always struggled knowing that those who bullied me will never be aware of how badly it changed and impacted my life in such negative ways. I feel very grateful to be here today to tell my story as not everyone makes it whether they are children or adults that struggle and feel there is no way out!

I wouldn’t change my path but I am determined to help others through theirs so that they don’t loose out on over 10 years of their 20s suffering like I did!

Thank you JAM community for taking the time to read my story and for providing the opportunity for me to safely open up about bullying!

Set to Bloom will be made available on Skool soon in collaboration with Just Another Moment! Please reach out if you have been bullied or suffered in abusive relationships! We are always here to help!

I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas and I wish everyone positivity and happiness into the new year! 💗💗💗

Do you relate to Danni’s story?

I feel you 🥺❤️

I don’t relate but I know the impact of bullying

Here if you want to talk 🙏🏻❤️

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