Most people know what they’re struggling with…
but they don’t know why it’s happening or how to shift it in a way that actually sticks.
Enter the Symptom & Outcome Matrix.
It’s a simple way to map out three things:
- What you’re experiencing right now
- Where you can get to — and what that would actually feel like
- How to start moving towards inner peace in a practical, grounded way
No fluff.
No vague affirmations.
No “just be confident” nonsense.
Just clarity.
Pattern → Insight → Next step.
And this week's example is one that hits a lot of people quietly:
Social anxiety that looks like avoidance.
Not because you’re shy.
Not because you’re “awkward.”
But because a part of you learned that relationships = risk.
It shows up as:
• Overthinking every interaction
• Leaving events replaying everything you said
• Feeling like you need to “perform”
• Avoiding networking, calls, or group settings
• Shrinking yourself because you’re convinced you’re not “enough”
If that’s you, this Matrix breaks it down into:
- the real root,
- the outcome you never thought was possible,
- and four small steps you can start taking today to move towards inner peace.
Because this isn’t about becoming more confident.
It’s about feeling safer inside yourself so confidence becomes a byproduct.
If this resonates, even a little, let me know:
Which part of this shows up most for you right now?
Or:
Which social situation triggers that ‘not enough’ feeling the quickest?
I’m curious to hear what lands.
The comments on these are always where the best conversations happen.