A trigger is a notification: Similar to the red dot notification on our feed, the trigger remains until we begin to acknowledge and read it. We have several choices: 1. Ignore 2. Distract ourselves (with socializing/avoiding, TV., doom scrolling, substances, etc.) 3. Read, acknowledge, and process it 4. Blame the messenger and give them the power over our emotion The emotional reaction/response we feel as a result of a person's actions or behavior are showing us the crack... The crack is where the pain from the past seeped in that made us feel a certain way. This often resulted from a 'conditional' love response, from a parental figure, that was not consistent with our desire and need. And so the subconscious loop begins... as our inner child continued to attempt to seek and receive the the desire or need. This invites similar characters, in different suits, into our lives to continue to play out that script. As we become more conscious/aware of the root, it can ignite a dark night of the soul. The initial cracking of that protective barrier is uncomfortable. This can sometimes feel, in the moment, even more painful than the ignorance. Substantial change can be, at the very least, 'uncomfortable,' because it is 'unfamiliar.' The ego may desire to cling to what we know, what is predictable, and what we believe to be true. This may cause one to retreat, and yet, it's practically impossible to go back to 'sleep' after we're 'awake.' The choice is ours to lean into that pain and truth.... Evolve or repeat. This can come with grief, for who you have been, who others' in your life have or haven't been to you in relation to the shadow. It may require a tremendous amount of forgiveness within ourselves. It calls us to give ourselves the unconditional love that may not have been modeled, received, or desired. The truth is, we have choices on what we invite, tolerate, and allow. That 'work' of acknowledging, feeling, releasing, and re-patterning takes effort, support, and a whole lot of grace and self-compassion.

This weekend reminded me of something: Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is rest. Not quit. Not avoid. Actually recover. I took a slow Saturday, went to bed ridiculously early, and got more done Sunday than I probably would’ve forcing myself through exhaustion. I think we’ve normalized running ourselves into the ground and calling it ambition. Anyone else learning this the hard way lately?

Most people wait for the fear to go away before they act. But that’s not how transformation works. Your brain is designed to keep you within what is known, predictable, and familiar. The moment you step into something new, it signals uncertainty… and labels it as danger. Not because it is dangerous, but because it is unfamiliar. So what do we do? We return to the past. We repeat the same emotions. We choose the same behaviors. And in doing so, we keep creating the same life. If you truly want to change something, you have to be willing to step into the unknown… and stay there long enough for your brain and body to begin to recalibrate. Because every time you choose to act in spite of fear, you are teaching your nervous system a new experience. You are telling your body: 💫“This is safe. This is possible. This is me.”💫 💥 Repetition then becomes the bridge. What was once uncomfortable becomes familiar. What was once familiar becomes your new identity. So the question is not whether it feels scary. The real question is: ❓Can you move forward before your body has evidence? ❓Can you act greater than your environment, your emotions, and your past? Because the moment you do…you are no longer living as a memory of the past. You are creating a future. Do it anyway‼️