Healing is like peeling the layers of an onion and when you reach a state when you have cleared all the debris in the last you find yourself your true self whom you have to forgive finally so you can easily unhook yourself from ego based reality.
But at times we find it really hard in forgiving ourself because deep down we are not ready to accept the fact that it was us who back then lead ourself into that compromising position which cause so much hurt and pain to us but trust me accepting the emotion, letting go and forgiving yourself will lead you to the highest vibration of you.
Beware of the EGO which will again try to keep you trap in survival mode by giving you guilt trips.
Forgive yourself don't be hard on yourself back then may be you didn't have that much of awakening or knowledge, strength accept it and forgive yourself and your self love will increase.❣