Martial virtue and practice methods.
One's approach/methods towards martial art training will have a direct effect on interactions in daily life. Martial art is not about winning or beating or controlling an opponent. It is about learning how to control oneself in all situations one is faced with. Martial art training is not about competing with others. It is about learning how to cooperate with others. Martial art is not sport. It is not about the superficial short lived winning of tournaments or trophies or titles or hierarchy of rank. It is about cultivating that which can not be seen regarding outer physical appearances. Martial art is not about forcefully throwing someone to the ground or hurting others through conflict, aggression, or resistance. Martial art is not about being faster and stronger than another but rather how to cultivate sensitivity to follow and yield to it. To avoid at all cost manifesting this type of situation. Martial art is about resolving confict peacefully. Understanding and applying kindness always. Not meaning harm to another who means harm to you. Violence will never lead to peace. If your methods of training involve hurt or be hurt mentality, you are missing the big picture, you are stuck in an endless downhill abyss. If your martial art training includes methods to toughen your body through painful solo and partner exercises, over the long term you are causing great damage that may be irreversible with aging. Body toughening is not necessary to develop real skills in martial arts. Only for those who believe resistance is the key to success. If this sounds at all like what you feel from your martail art training, you need to change course. Martial arts teach us to avoid conflict at all cost. To yield to external force but not collapse to it. To be in harmony with outside foce applied to our body. This involves the actual training methods. Learning how to use softness to overcome hardness. This last point needs to transfer and be applied in ones daily life - using softness to overcome hardness.