Your life is a series of decisions dictated by your mental frame.
Most of us inherit a frame, which creates a longing for destructive "freedom."
The Construction Process I Used To Form My Mental Frame That Serves Me:
1.Data Collection:Β Every time you experience something you despise, write it down. These are the negative data points that will work as holes to avoid.
2.Pattern Recognition:Β Reflect on your past. What do you never want to experience again? This forms the outer boundary of your new frame.
3.Decision Filter:Β You will have a "away from" compass. It allows you to stop, think, and consciously choose the opposite direction.
Just inversion principle (popularised by Charlie Munger) at its best.
This provided me the negative energy to break from the default state of existence into the one I desired.