When I look back through my divorce and everything that came after, I can think of a lot of moments I consider “wins.” I do want to say this first though — my own divorce was fairly simple. We agreed on everything. We did not have minor children involved. We divided our things, sold our home, and went our separate ways. Here in the South, people sometimes call that “splitting the sheets.” It was amicable. But when I really stop and think about it, most of my own personal "wins" were actually me overcoming my own fears. Fear of being alone. Fear of “Can I actually make it on my own?” Fear of “I don’t know how to do this.” And honestly… there were a LOT of “thises.” Turns out, most of those fears were unfounded. My first big win was buying my own home. My own money. My own credit. No co-signer. No outside help. Just me. I still remember signing the papers and being handed that house key. It stands out as one of the proudest moments of my life because it was the very first "big" thing I had ever owned that was not somehow tied to my ex-husband. Since then, there have been a lot of other wins too. Some were small things — learning how to use a weed eater, figuring out a propane grill, handling things my husband always did before. Some were bigger things — advancing in my career, starting my own side hustle, building a life that feels like mine and that I am quite happy with. What I’ve learned is this: A win does not have to look impressive to other people. Anything that helps you move forward instead of backward is a win. Making a hard phone call is a win. Getting through a lonely weekend is a win. Paying a bill on your own is a win. Trying something new is a win. Getting out of bed when life feels heavy is a win. None of it is insignificant. Please share one of your wins below — big or small. I truly want to hear it, and I will be cheering you on.

Divorce Fatigue Is Real Nobody warns you about this part. Not just the heartbreak.Not just the legal stress.Not just the money worries. But the exhaustion of carrying it for months. Divorce fatigue is real. It’s when you’re tired of checking emails. Tired of paperwork. Tired of waiting. Tired of thinking about what’s next. Tired of explaining your situation. Tired of being “strong.” Tired of having one more thing to deal with. And sometimes the hardest part is this: Life around you keeps moving while yours feels stuck in slow motion. The wheels of justice often turn slowly. Judges have full calendars. Attorneys are juggling many clients. Court schedules get backed up. Responses take time. Hearings get pushed out. That waiting can wear people down. It’s like a black cloud that follows you every day. If this is where you are right now, it does not mean you’re doing anything wrong. It does not mean you should give in or give up. What it means is that prolonged stress is exhausting. That is normal. And it happens to almost everyone who goes through the process. This is often the stage where people start judging themselves: “I should be further along by now.”“I should be handling this better.”“Why am I so tired?” Because you’ve been carrying a heavy load longer than expected. That’s why. Today might not be the day to solve everything. Today might simply be the day to: • answer one email • take one next step • rest without guilt • stop expecting yourself to function like nothing happened That counts too. Sometimes progress in divorce looks less like productivity and more like endurance. What part of divorce fatigue has hit you the hardest lately?